This meditation is about letting go of the need to control our experience. It’s about learning how to disengage from frantically doing all the time, and being ok with just being. Just like in all the meditation cliches. The idea is that as we learn to let go of our need to micromanage every moment – to constantly prove ourselves and improve ourselves – we paradoxically open ourselves to resources we may not find otherwise. It can lead to a quite beautiful sense of relief and acceptance and belonging. Because you are allowed to exist without having to do anything.
This is the final meditation in the book Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics, coauthored by Dan Harris and Carlye Adler. This and the dozen or so other meditations can be found – with video and extra stuff – on the 10% Happier app. Thanks to my teacher Shinzen Young for the inspiration.