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Whales Are People Too

This piece on whale consciousness and animal personhood won a Gold and a Silver medal at the 2012 Canadian National Magazine Awards. Whales are people too; the science proves it. Are humans ready to see them as equals?

This article originally appeared in the July 2012 issue of Reader’s Digest 

spermwhaleNot three metres from where I’m standing on the starboard side of the sailboat, six very large female sperm whales are doing something few humans have ever witnessed.

The captain of our 40-foot cutter is Dalhousie University biologist Hal Whitehead, one of the pre-eminent experts on sperm whales. It’s mid-afternoon on a sunny day in Mexico’s Gulf of California, a 1,000-kilometre-long body of water famous for its biodiversity. The gulf’s strong tides create a cool upwelling of nutrients that support countless species of marine life, such as snappers, sardines and sharks, as well as that fierce mass of tentacles known as the Humboldt squid. Sperm whales hunt these squid year-round – they dive kilometres under the surface, pinpoint the squid with their sonar and snap them into their large and toothy grins.

For the past five days, Whitehead and four crew members-including two Ph.D. students named Armando Manolo Ãlvarez Torres and Catalina Gomez-have been shadowing the sperm whales around the clock. They track their underwater echolocation pings on the hydrophone by night, and observe and photograph the animals by day. In many ways Whitehead’s approach is that of an old-fashioned behavioural scientist. While younger whale researchers tend to collect data using implants and satellite tracking, Whitehead still prefers following whales in person. By watching who spends time with whom doing what, he can extract insights about their social structure.

Until now, the whale behaviour on display during our trip has been pretty basic: They disappeared into the deep and-invisible to us-hunted. A bushy waterspout, often spotted from the crow’s nest, announced their return to the surface. Family units of half a dozen or so bobbed at the surface of the water, re-oxygenating their blood and preparing for the next dive.

But on rare occasions the whales did something else: They socialized. Another way of saying this is they squirmed all over one another like a business of monster-size aquatic ferrets. “Whoa,” says Gomez, as the water in front of her churns with activity. One of the whales rolls onto her side-we can see the tender pink of her jaw, surprisingly slight and narrow against her large proboscis. Another whale rolls over her, twisting as she moves, while a third pokes her nose vertically out of the water, as if sniffing the air, before undulating sharply, bunching her back as she slides down and into the other bodies. The high-powered field camera whirls as Gomez shoots photo after photo while another crew member furiously fills out the behavioural log in the day’s workbook.

Whitehead calls such socializing the “bonding glue” for sperm-whale society. But we’re also being shown a window into his most astonishing proposition: Sperm whales have distinct cultures. Each clan, he argues, is unique in almost every way: feeding, migration patterns, child-care preferences, rates of reproduction. Sperm whales also speak different dialects. In addition to their echolocation clicks, they produce unique sequences of clicks called “codas,” which change from clan to clan-think of the variations, say, between Sicilian and Venetian-and are likely a declaration of group identity.

“These aren’t genetic differences,” says Whitehead. “They’re learned.” What distinguishes whales-along with chimps, elephants and perhaps some birds-is the fact that the things they learn persist through time. They seem to be passed down from generation to generation until they form part of the distinct identity of the clan.

Whitehead’s evidence adds a whole new dimension to the way we think about protecting whales. It tells us that if humans break up a group of sperm whales or killer whales or dolphins, we are destroying not just individual lives or a population of animals; we are also destroying a unique dialect, a hunting strategy, a social tradition-an ancient, living culture. “You have to understand,” Whitehead says, “until a few hundred thousand years ago most of the culture was in the ocean. Certainly the most sophisticated cultures on Earth were whales and dolphins, until the strange bipedal hominid evolved.”

When Whitehead and his colleague Luke Rendall published their findings in a 2001 special issue of the influential journal Behavioral and Brain Sciences, a few scientific commentators were critical, calling the claims of culture “weak” and “overblown.” Others found the evidence convincing, piecing it together with new research into cetacean cognition that continued through the decade.

It all came to a head this past February in Vancouver, at the annual meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science-the world’s largest gathering of scientists-when a small group of scientists and ethicists presented what they hoped would be a paradigm-changing proposal to a packed room: “The Declaration of Rights for Cetaceans.”

“We affirm,” reads the declaration, “that all cetaceans as persons have the right to life, liberty and well-being.” They have the right, the declaration continues, not to be slaughtered, not to be held in captivity, not to be owned or exploited or removed from their environment. The declaration sparked national and international coverage, most of it positive, some critical and some quizzical. “The important thing,” says one of the authors, Atlanta-based Emory University neurobiologist Lori Marino, “is that people are taking it seriously.”

The declaration is, of course, non-binding, so the real test will be whether the group can get the project endorsed legally. They hope to bring the declaration before the UN. As part of another effort, Marino and some of the signatories are also working with an organization called the Nonhuman Rights Project, which is preparing to litigate its first cases and break through the legal wall that currently separates humans from nonhumans. “We want to argue for whale common-law status-to actually use a dolphin or whale as a plaintiff,” says Marino. “We think we can find a jurisdiction where a judge would be open to hearing this. The science is on our side.”

The key claim is that whales and dolphins are entitled to that privileged human status known as personhood. “Humans are considered persons because they have a certain set of characteristics,” says Marino. “They are self-aware, intelligent, complex, autonomous, cultured and so on. If we accept that definition-and versions of this are used around the world in constitutions and other legislation-then the latest science is telling us that cetaceans also qualify. They are, therefore, nonhuman persons.”

Whales, it seems, are having their civil-rights moment. But is the science behind the declaration’s claims sound? And if so, what are the legal and ethical implications of extending personhood to cetaceans? What would a Cetacean Nation even look like?

A few hundred years ago, whales were feared-the stuff of myth and legend. Artist engravings from the 16th century depict great fanged monsters with wings at their ears and horns along their belly. This began to change in the 18th century with the rise of whaling. European and American sailors came back with vivid tales of hardship and struggle. At the centre of their stories was the mighty sperm whale-scourge of the South Seas-who overturned the whaling boats and dragged harpooners to their deaths. From source material like this, Herman Melville spun his great American literature epic.

The first observations of whales came from whaler naturalists, who tagged along on hunting expeditions and kept extensive notes. In 1939, Thomas Beale remarked on the strong sociality of female sperm whales. He was one of the few naturalists who characterized sperm whales as actually being quite gentle (“timid and inoffensive,” in his words). But such accounts were rare. For the most part, the whale was seen as a moving field of blubber, which could be melted for candle wax, soap and, most precious of all, oil. The whale kick-started civilization’s first oil addiction, a nonrenewable resource that fired the industrial revolution and was exploited almost to extinction.

Through the late 19th century, whaling technologies improved greatly and hundreds of thousands of whales were “harvested” a year, leading to a crash in their global numbers. The population of blue whales in the South Seas, for example, went from 350,000 at the turn of the 20th century to just over 2,000 today. Sperm whales, prized for their precious spermaceti oil-the bright, sweet-smelling candles produced from the oil were luxury items-somehow fared considerably better. Their total population is thought to have dropped from over a million to a third of that. Whales were described in terms of “units” -a mechanization of life that was reflected in the dominant scientific view of animals at the time, known as behaviourism, which considered all animals to be stimulus-response machines devoid of inner life.

By the middle of the 20th century, all of this started to change. Biologists began to show up at meetings of the newly established International Whaling Commission (IWC), warning that whales were on the brink of extinction. In the public imagination, whales shifted from Moby Dick to Jacques Cousteau’s gentle giants. The hyper-intrepid dolphin Flipper entertained millions of television viewers during the late ‘60s, while the haunting Songs of the Humpback Whale, released in 1970, became a smash hit for Capitol Records.

The most influential, and polarizing, figure in this new reassessment was a brilliant medical doctor and neurophysiologist named John Lilly. One of the first scientists to promote dolphin problem-solving abilities, Lilly was also a natural showman who, among other stunts, taught dolphins to mimic high-pitched versions of English-language phrases.

The media loved it. Lilly’s books were bestsellers and inspired a generation of future marine biologists. Buoyed by his research data and well-received scientific papers, he began making bold claims. “Individual dolphins and whales,” Lilly wrote, “are to be given the legal rights of human individuals.” Research into cetacean communication, he argued, was a matter of importance to all of human civilization. “We must learn their needs, their ethics, their philosophy,” he wrote. “The extraterrestrials are here – in the sea.”

Lilly’s vivid depiction of dolphins and whales as intelligent, peace-loving ETs was exactly what the youth wanted to hear. The Save the Whales movement was born. Canadian naturalist Farley Mowat’s 1972 A Whale for the Killing helped to rouse public outrage, and Greenpeace-also Canadian-began sending out inflatable Zodiacs between whalers and their prey. In 1986, after years of heated debate, a moratorium on commercial whaling was passed, respected by all member countries in the IWC except Norway, Iceland and Japan, who take advantage of loopholes in the IWC treaty in order to hunt thousands of whales a year.

Today, although some whale populations have begun to recover, the danger is far from over. Seven of the 13 species of great whales remain endangered, and several populations-the Western Northern Pacific grey whale, the Western North Atlantic whale, and the Antarctic blue whale-have only a few hundred remaining. In addition, over 300,000 cetaceans are killed a year in ship collisions and fisheries “bycatch.” What’s more, the IWC treaty does not apply directly to other small whales and dolphins; over 20,000 dolphins and porpoises are killed annually off the coast of Japan alone, including in the shallow coves of Taiji, made infamous in the recent Academy Award-winning documentary The Cove.

According to Marino, a recognition of whale personhood and rights could pressure the IWC to close the remaining loopholes and make it far more difficult for any country to slaughter cetaceans. It might also end dolphin and whale captivity, a challenge for SeaWorld and other aquariums, but a boon for the rapidly expanding global whale-watching industry, which rakes in more than two billion tourist dollars a year and employs more than 13,000 people.

But whale personhood also represents the latest revolution in human sensitivity. For 50 years the idea of whale consciousness has waited for a crossover moment-to go from a fringe belief passionately held by the few to an idea accepted by many. A number of cetacean researchers-declaration in hand-believe that moment has finally come.

Back on the boat, the sperm whales surge towards each other. Before our trip, Whitehead showed me underwater footage of sperm whales socializing, and it was spellbinding. The sensuality of their movements as they slowly rolled and pivoted, scraping their long serrated spines along one another’s pale bellies. The way they sent pulses of sounds into one another’s sides. The scene seemed suffused with a mutual attentiveness and care that I found moving.

Despite not being able to locate the seat of consciousness in the animal brain – something true for humans as well – most scientists no longer ask whether animals have inner experiences. Some degree of sentience is considered self-evident. For neuroscientist Jaak Panksepp, one of the world’s leading experts on the neural origins of mind and emotion, “the denial of consciousness in animals is as improbable as the pre-scientific anthropocentric view that the sun revolves around the Earth.”

But what do we mean by “consciousness”? At its most basic, consciousness can simply mean being aware of your surroundings. By this definition, of course, nearly every animal would have some form of awareness. Many different species perform a whole range of social actions, including co-operative behaviours and maternal care. Bees show complex activities – but does that mean they’re conscious? Quite possibly, yes. The question now is no longer whether animals have minds, but what kind of minds.

Scientists now understand the mind as a much larger phenomenon, with many different species’ expressions. Humans and animals are not separated by some yawning chasm – the fact that we share basic brain structures suggests we might also share similar cognitive structures – like thousands of different operating systems coded to run the same apps. Cetaceans have been a big part of this story, in part because of Whitehead’s findings, but also because of the experiments of dedicated researchers such as the University of Hawaii’s Lou Herman, who has proved that dolphins are capable of complex problem solving, demonstrating prodigious feats of learning, memory and creativity. One well-known anecdote involves a clever aquarium dolphin who was rewarded by his trainers for retrieving one piece of garbage after another. It turns out that, in order to maximize his fishy rewards, the dolphin had stashed an entire newspaper at the bottom of the tank and was very deliberately tearing off one small piece at a time.

But the most game-changing research may be the reappraisal of the whale brain currently under way. Marino has spent 20 years studying the whale brain’s structure and evolution, and found that it’s not only large (it’s second only to a human’s in its brain-to-body ratio) but also contains many braided cell structures and areas of dense connectivity. The term for this is “convoluted” – the cortex folds in on itself to increase its surface area inside the skull, thus giving the brain its ridged appearance (the brains of less intelligent animals are much smoother). What’s more, the history of the whale brain has been very different from those of primates and other mammals. Thirty-five million years ago it began arranging its parts into an utterly unique functional layout and structure. This achievement, says Marino, represents “an alternative evolutionary route to complex intelligence.”

The most intriguing part of the whale brain for Marino is the limbic system, which, in mammals, handles the processing of emotions. In some respects, she found this part of the whale brain is actually more convoluted than our own. In fact it’s so large it erupts into the cortex in the form of an extra paralimbic lobe. The location of the lobe suggests it is involved in a unique mash-up between emotional and cognitive thinking, perhaps some mix of social communication and self-awareness that we do not currently understand.

“Whales are arguably the most socially connected, communicative and coordinated mammals on the planet, including humans,” says Marino. “Killer whales, for instance, do not kill or even seriously harm one another in the wild, despite the fact that there is competition for prey and mates and there are disagreements. Their social rules prohibit real violence, and they seem to have worked out a way to peacefully manage the partitioning of resources among different groups. That is something we humans haven’t done yet.”

Whitehead points down: Two of the whales have suddenly become curious about us. Torres, intent on recording the codas, unspooled a long hydrophone into the water. The whales begin echolocating furiously on the blue cable, which trails behind the boat. I can feel the echolocation pings roll through the hull below me as I pull in the line, concerned the whales might bite the cord, as happened on Whitehead’s last trip. One of the whales follows the hydrophone in. I feel as if I’m fishing for giants. Finally, she pivots onto her side and fixes me with a large watery eye before rolling back to her family.

Whitehead, Marino and a few other whale scientists believe that echolocation – which Whitehead calls the “world’s most powerful imaging device” – might play a central role in whales’ social sophistication. It is possible that the faculty is used like an ultrasound to see inside bodies. “The sonar system may see, in great detail, the internal organs of all the other members of the group,” says Whitehead. “So there’s no hiding what one has eaten, whether one’s sexually receptive, whether one’s pregnant, whether one’s sick. Presumably, this changes social life a lot.”

It doesn’t stop there. An enormous amount of information is contained in the body: accelerated beating of the heart, tightness in the diaphragm, tension in the muscles-all of these registers of information may well be processed by the whale’s huge associative cortexes at lightning-fast speed. And not in isolation-most astounding of all is the possibility that all of this may be shared. There is evidence to suggest that dolphins and sperm whales can “eavesdrop” on another’s returning echoes, an ability akin to seeing through another’s eyes. Thus a group of widely dispersed whales may in some sense be part of a single sensory loop, sensitive to every twitch and shudder in the wide phenomenal world.

One of the larger females has begun to “spy hop” – rising up vertically out of the water like a thick periscope, exposing her eyes to the surface. I have the sense that I’m being stared at by another form of intelligence. It’s both thrilling and a little disconcerting, as though I’m being asked to partake in an exchange I haven’t really prepared for.

Some of the critics of the declaration certainly feel this way. National Post columnist and policy analyst Tasha Kheiriddin was quick to point out that in order for an animal to have rights, it must be part of a social contract, something impossible between animals and humans. “An animal owns no property. It cannot be taxed. It bears no responsibility, legal or otherwise for its actions: You cannot sue a dolphin if it bites you or wrecks your boat.”

Marino says there are other ways to look at it. “We don’t expect human infants to have responsibilities,” she says, “yet we still consider them people.” Ultimately, Marino argues, the declaration becomes pretty hard to dismiss if you stick with basic rights. “We are not saying that dolphins should vote or go to school – obviously this is preposterous. What we are saying is that the rights of a species should be based on their critical needs. In the case of whales, they should have the right not to be killed and tortured and confined, the right to live free in their natural environment. This is very basic stuff.”

Marino’s vision for a Cetacean Nation is, at first blush, that of a conservationist. But as I watch the whales I realize there’s also something new in the works here, something that has to do with our own minds, not just whale minds. We’ve always looked to the stars for signs of intelligent life. Now we’re waking up to the idea that such life exists right here. But the facts as we currently understand them – for 35 million years whales have had the largest brains and the most complex cultures on the planet – can’t really tell us what kind of mind we are dealing with. Where, for example, so many of our resources are directed towards manipulating objects and ideas, whales’ emotional and cognitive resources seem to be directed socially, at one another. They have no hands to manipulate the world. But they have brains to feel it, in a way we do not and cannot fully understand.

And yet, for all the exotic otherness of the whale mind, it’s equally true that there are elements that we can know and understand. As any pet owner will attest, we can often tell when an animal is angry or loving or even calculating, because we share those qualities. I can relate to the sperm whales’ need for physical intimacy, to their loyalty to one another, to their curiosity. And these are just the visible behaviours. The science suggests other shared qualities: a capacity for culture, communication and creative problem solving. What you begin to realize about animal minds is that, when we compare ours to theirs, there’s always something distinct and something shared; this ratio simply shifts in relation to the species in question.

So the common core we share with a bacterium is far narrower than that we share with a whale, which in turn is perhaps narrower than that we share with our close cousin the chimp. In a sense the human-to-animal mind question may simply be an exaggerated version of the human-to-human mind question: We can never entirely know another person’s experience – all the more so if that person was raised in a different culture – but there are vast areas of overlap that can, with science and empathy and imagination, be expanded.

What is a person? A being, certainly. But personhood is also a quality that emerges from how we relate to one another. When we deem another entity a “person” we recognize that there’s another point of view present, one with its own internal coherence and integrity. Whatever happens on the legal front in the years to come, the question of animal personhood is also a personal one. It will be answered differently by each of us. The true promise of the Cetacean Nation will only be realized to the extent that we, as a species, can recognize we’re surrounded by a rainbow of exotic cultures and narratives. We’re invited to be participating members in the community of nature, connected as though by invisible lines of echolocation to all these other “persons” on our planetary home.

As for the sperm whales, it’s enough, for now, just to watch them. Gradually, they stop playing and begin to drift away from the boat. Then, as if cued by some invisible signal, they roll their broad backs and salute the air with their chiseled flukes. Six clear watermarks float in their wake.

 

*WhaleRising-COVER

Living in Oneness – Panel Discussion

I hosted this animated panel at the 2013 Science and Nonduality conference in Holland. At least two of the participants – Lisa Cairns and Gary Weber – claim to have permanently transitioned to a state of spiritual oneness as described by mystics.

OnHavingNoHeadI hosted this animated panel at the 2013 Science and Nonduality conference in Holland. At least two of of the participants – Lisa Cairns and Gary Weber – claim to have permanently transitioned to a state of spiritual oneness, as described by mystics. The third participant, Tim Freke, is more circumspect. We explore what the heck this actually means for them as they walk around in day-to-day experience.

The talk is also on YouTube, here.

10% Happier Podcast – Meditation Party: The “Sh*t Is Fertilizer” Edition | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren

This episode is the first in an experimental new series called Meditation Party. Dan takes listener calls with fellow meditators Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren and get candid about their practices and dealing with life.

From the 10% Happier with Dan Harris Podcast, episode #553. Meditation Party: The “Sh*t Is Fertilizer” Edition | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren:

“Today’s episode is the first in an experimental new series called Meditation Party.

Dan takes listener calls with fellow meditators Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren and get candid about their practices and dealing with life.

Sebene Selassie is based in Brooklyn and describes herself as a “writer, teacher, and immigrant-weirdo.” She teaches meditation on the Ten Percent Happier app and is the author of a great book called, You Belong. Jeff Warren is based in Toronto and is also a writer and meditation teacher who co-wrote the book, Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Dan Harris. Jeff also hosts the Consciousness Explorers podcast.”.

More HERE.

Animal Empathy – There’s an App for That!

Communications technology is often accused of dissociating us from the natural world. A little thought-experiment that explores how the next generation of “augmented reality” technologies might close this gap, and help us hear like an elephant and think like a squirrel.

Harold: “You sure have a way with people.”
Maude: “Well, they’re my species!”

The other day I went for a hike in High Park, a large tract of forest in Toronto’s West End. Nature relaxes me. I watch the squirrels and the birds and place my hand on the trunks of the largest trees, feeling for something I can’t readily describe. At one point on a quiet trail I realized I wasn’t alone. Coming towards me was another hiker, weaving drunkenly, catching his feet in the roots. He was texting on his smart phone. So, actually, I was still alone. He was only notionally in the forest. His mind was elsewhere, as my mind is so often elsewhere, flitting through information space, that endlessly diverting playground.

It’s easy to criticize technology in this way—as the great distractor, dissociating us from our bodies, and from nature.  If there is a Devil, surely the iPhone is his spawn, deracinating us, slowly turning the human species into nothing more than brains in vats, and transforming the green Earth into a giant dumpster for our byproducts.

Except … except God and the Devil are always neck and neck, aren’t they? Bobbing and surging like Olympic rowers in a race that never ends. And I bet God has an iPhone too – actually, He probably has an early prototype of Google Glass, Google’s much-anticipated “augmented reality” spectacles. But even as these new God-gadgets threaten new ways for humans to checkout, they may also promise new ways for humans to check in.

That Thing in Your Hand is Practically Alive

For this column, a thought-experiment. Consider the Smart Phone – or let me consider mine. It’s pretty old at this point – a third generation iPhone that my friend Roy gave me when he upgraded a couple years ago. A lot of the new apps don’t even work on it. But “SoundHound” does. When I’m in some public space and I hear a song I like, I hit the app and it listens too, processingprocessingprocessing, until eventually it blinks out the artist and track title. Amazing!

My iPhone is like a little sensing organism. It hears (microphone), sees (camera), feels (touch screen), balances (gyroscope), and is self-aware enough to know both its speed (accelerometer) and position (GPS). In these different ways my iPhone senses the external world and, via different apps, generates an appropriate response. This is not a bad description of a crude mammalian sensory-motor system.

Here’s my big idea. Every week some new bit of research on the chemical sensors of the octopus, or elephant sub-sonic hearing or bird navigation, makes its way into the scientific journals. It’s mostly other experts who see it. But what if we began to apply that research in the way we use our technology? What if we used it to build Animal-Empathy Apps for every organism?

The Ultimate Design Challenge

Think of it as the ultimate design challenge, a new kind of artist –scientist collaboration, and a new kind of product assembly line. At one end is a vast growing Open Source Wiki of consolidated information about different animal sensory systems and ecology and comparative neurobiology and behavioral data and all the rest. At the other end is the ongoing creative evolution of better and better interfaces. What begins as a gimmick gets increasingly more detailed and immersive and intelligent. Now, when our technology mediates our experience, it does so through the simulated prisms of an alien nervous system.

So you start, say, with a Whale Watching app. On the main screen are four little images:

Humpback photo by Masa Ushioda, the diver is Scott Hanson. See coolwaterphoto.com

“What is it like to be a …

1. killer whale?
2. humpback?
3. bottle-nosed dolphin?
4. right whale?”

Choose one and the screen goes dark. The view /camera function opens, altered now so that everything looks a little bluer and more fish-eyed (the whale’s eye has more rod cells than cones, thus it sees more of the blue end of the colour spectrum, plus all marine mammal eyes have stronger, more spherical lenses). A separate algorithm adds texture to moving shapes in an imaginative recreation of echolocation, as the species-specific song or clicks or whistles play underneath. Simple – underwhelming, perhaps – but still evocative.

Version two goes a step further and uses the toothed whale’s primary sense: echolocation. Fisherman already use cheap sonar devices to find fish. Portable ultrasound. Works above water and below. Now, when you click on the killer whale you hear real functioning echolocation clicks and watch a visual reproduction of how a killer whale might experience … er, Prospect Park. On roller-blades. Minus 99% of what’s actually true and important about what it’s like to be a killer whale (you have to begin somewhere).

Whales are just for starters. We could have apps for dogs and cats, calibrated to their particular visual and auditory systems – specialized colour spectrum, amplified sounds, higher frequencies.  Imagine the potential market, given the pet-owner demographic:  “Look dear, this is how Dexter sees the world.” Like a dog sniffing a pole, our iPhones could have chemical sensors that detect olfactory signatures and translates them into an undulating tapestry of indexed and colored airflows.

Insert an infrared sensor and you could enter the world of the mosquito – how do they find you? (actually, by smell – but blood-sucking bed bugs are attracted to your body heat, as are pit vipers and vampire bats.) Or an app for horses and cows. Animal science professor Temple Grandin, famously autistic, “thinks in images” and says livestock do the same. She’s been able to design more humane cattle corrals because she sees what will spook the animals: shadows, reflected light, sudden changes in contrast, small objects, blowing clothing – specific details that most of us would overlook but many farm animals will balk at. An animal-empathy app could find practical application with its ability to scan a particular environment for farmers and highlight potential problems. Here we go, into the cow.

Although some of this functionality is out of reach at the moment, the technology is getting cheaper and faster and more portable (and responsive) by the day. As it does so, expect some radical sensory extension: tools to visualize the chemical world of plant information exchange, the electrical fields of amphibians, the fluxing and shifting magnetic field of the planet itself – the list goes on and on. Put three artists and three biologists and three ecologists in a room and you’d have fifty cool Animal-Empathy App ideas in under an hour. (My friend Marni suggests The Kafka App: “the alarm that wakes you up in the mind of a cockroach.”)

Apps are only the beginning. Anachronistic aquariums and zoos – bad ways to deal with the legitimate human desire to seek out nonhuman nature – could be slowly replaced by the next generation of interpretive centers, all kitted out with the latest animal sensory system technology. (“How was the zoo today?” “Great. I was an anaconda for a while, then an orangutan named Namu, and then I was a sloth for a really looooong time.”)

The Evolution of Human Empathy

Keeping pace with our crimes, the human capacity for empathy continues to expand. Over the past two hundred years, in part via the printed word (that first generation of perspective-expanding technology), our circle of empathy has moved far beyond the small ruling world of white male property owners. Lately we’ve seen a new cultural focus, in works like The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night, on stories that dramatize the interior landscape of mental illness, for instance – the world of autistics, schizophrenics and depressives.  We go to movies like Melancholia, or Spider.  And non-human nature will be next. There is nowhere else to go.

This is where the arrow of consciousness studies is pointing: out beyond us, to the next concentric ring, in what we might hope is an ever-expanding circle of empathy and understanding.  Novelist Barbara Gowdy has already taken her readers there in her novel The White Bone, a story about the persecution of a herd of elephants by poachers, told entirely from the elephants’ point of view. There are many other examples.

My own view is that the more we are able to see ourselves as part of the community of nature, the more sympathetic and respectful and conscious we may become. As I argued in my last columnsomething of an animal’s experience can be known to us – certainly more than is known at present. We used to believe that infants didn’t feel pain too; we know better now.

Stirring Conclusion

Now let’s go back to my walk in High Park, this time with a different outcome. Along comes the other hiker, still stumbling on roots. But now it’s because he’s looking up, into the canopy.  He’s wearing a pair of Android SmartShades™ and he’s launched the top-selling Bird World App. This bit of software doesn’t just tell you what species are singing. Programmed into its database is an encyclopedia of bird sounds, from the begging calls of hatchlings to companionship appeals, warnings of threats, aggression challenges and more. The hiker now has access to the rich and multilayered story of the forest, as the app tracks the movement of potential predators, identifies nest areas and flight arcs and opens up a world few of us know is even there.

Looking up at the birds – enchanted, distracted – the hiker doesn’t notice my hand reach for his $800 SmartShades. I pluck them easily from his face and disappear into the trees before he realizes what’s happening.

Lesson number one in the expanded-empathy future: never trust a human.

10% Happier Podcast – Meditation Party with Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren: Psychedelics, ADHD, Waking Up From Distraction, and Singing Without Being Self-Conscious

In this episode, Jeff shares what it’s like to be a meditation teacher who has ADHD. We also take listener questions, discussing topics like drugs. Specifically, psychedelics — and whether you’re violating Buddhist precepts if you take them. We also talk about how frustrating it can be to repeatedly wake up from distraction in meditation.

From the 10% Happier with Dan Harris Podcast, episode #601. Meditation Party with Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren: Psychedelics, ADHD, Waking Up From Distraction, and Singing Without Being Self-Conscious:

“Welcome to Round II of the Meditation Party. The feedback we got from our first episode was overwhelmingly positive, so we’re going for it again. Meditation Party is an experiment we’re running with a chattier format – more of a morning zoo vibe, but way deeper, of course. The real agenda here is to show that meditation doesn’t have to be a solo death march; it is vastly enhanced by having friends.

Dan’s co-hosts in this episode are his two close friends: the great meditation teachers Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren. Sebene Selassie is based in Brooklyn and describes herself as a “writer, teacher, and immigrant-weirdo.” She teaches meditation on the Ten Percent Happier app and is the author of a great book called, You Belong. Jeff Warren is based in Toronto and is also a writer and meditation teacher who co-wrote the book, Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Dan Harris. Jeff also hosts the Consciousness Explorers podcast.

In this episode, we talk to Jeff about what it’s like to be a meditation teacher who has ADHD. And even if you don’t have ADHD, there’s a lot of practical value to this conversation, because we all have unruly minds, and Jeff has found some great ways to work with this condition.

We also take listener questions, discussing topics like drugs. Specifically, psychedelics — and whether you’re violating Buddhist precepts if you take them. We also talk about how frustrating it can be to repeatedly wake up from distraction in meditation.

And finally, we have a segment talking about the stuff we’re psyched about right now… in which Sebene sings for us”.

More HERE.

Understanding Animal Minds

Scientists and philosophers have long erected an insurmountable barrier between humans and animals. This seems to be changing. The human imagination is moving outward. The animals are coming. Hide the nuts!

“The imagination is not a source of deception and delusion, but a capacity to sense what you do not know, to intuit what you cannot understand, to be more than you can know.” – William Irwin Thompson

Thirty years ago, if you mentioned animal consciousness at a psychology conference, you’d risk getting cattle-prodded by some beady-eyed Behaviorist. Animals were mostly regarded as stimulus-response machines, devoid of inner life. Dissenters were few and far between.

Times have changed. Animal cognition is all the rage, and, following closely behind is the study of comparative neurobiology. Last July, a consortium of well-known neuroscientists issued “The Cambridge Declaration on Consciousness in Non-Human Animals,” as public an acknowledgment as you are likely to find on behalf of science that, yes, it seems that animals do in fact possess consciousness, or at least they possess the “neurobiological substrates” necessary to “generate” consciousness.

Although it sounds like common sense, the Declaration is important, for it will pave the way for further study, and, one hopes, increasing respect for the impressive mental capacities of the non-human world.

The Anthropomorphism Taboo

But in other respects, when it comes to our relationship to animals, we continue to be held back by an even deeper intellectual taboo, and that is the taboo of imagining we can relate to animals in the first place. “Anthropomorphism!” the scientific censors shout – a terrible thing to be accused of. Many cite the American philosopher Thomas Nagel, who in a famous 1974 essay, “What Is It Like to Be a Bat?” argued that, yes, it is like something to be a bat, but as humans we are largely cut off from that experience. We can simply never know what it is like to be another animal; our mental resources, he writes, “are inadequate to the task.”

Nagel’s paper is an elegant defence of the integrity and irreducibility of inner experience. It was a position that needed to be staked out, for then – as now – many zealous materialists believed that everything important about consciousness could be described by looking at brain-based external measures (Nagel recently expanded his argument in a new book, to the outrage of scientific fundamentalists).

However, in making this important point about consciousness, Nagel inadvertently erected an ideological wall between ourselves and the rest of nature. For it is not true that we cannot say anything at all about what it’s like to be a bat, or, indeed, any animal. As the philosopher Ralph Acamporo says about our scaled and furry cousins, “It doesn’t follow to say that since we don’t know each other fully, we can’t know each other at all.”

Inspired by the Cambridge Declaration, I would like to propose my own declaration on behalf of human imagination and empathy: The Declaration of Animal Relatability.  It hinges on a model I’ll call “The One and the Many.”

The One and the Many

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The idea is that, yes, obviously there are private aspects of another organism’s experience that, due to the constraints of our biology, we cannot fully know. We have to respect that; indeed, it should be celebrated. This whole bestiary of mind is a showcase for nature’s fantastic creativity. We rarely think of minds this way, but Darwin’s “endless forms most beautiful” is as true of the mental as it is the material.

But there are also elements we can know and understand. Since we are all descended from a common ancestor, there is always a measure of shared experience conserved in body and mind. This makes perfect sense regarding our closest relations. From an evolutionary standpoint, if a big-brained mammal acts similar to us under similar conditions – if they squeal in pain, or nuzzle affectionately – then it makes sense that some part of the psychology behind their action is similar to ours.

The primatologist Frans de Waal says those who reject this obvious insight are in “anthropodenial.” In their groundbreaking work, How Monkeys See the World, the biologists Dorothy Cheney and Robert Seyfarth point out that for field naturalists, a certain amount of anthropomorphizing actually works. “Attributing motives and strategies to animals,” they write, “is often the best way for an observer to predict what an individual is likely to do next.”

A Feeling for the Organism

The key point here is this: our ability to relate to an animal’s experience shifts in proportion to the species in question. So the pith we share with a bacterium is far narrower than that we may share with a whale, which in turn is perhaps narrower than that we share with the chimp. In a sense, the human-to-animal mind question may simply be an exaggerated version of the human-to-human mind question: we can never entirely know another person’s experience – all the more so if they’re raised in a different culture – but there are deep points of overlap that can, crucially, be expanded.

This last point is important. The ratio of one to many, of the shared to the private – it isn’t static. There’s a malleable area between the two that can be expanded. Like anything else, relating to another being’s perspective is a practice.

Spend enough time with dogs and you start to get a feel for what makes them sad or excited, for how they move in space, little hints and flavors of their experience. For most of us this understanding is vague and refracted, but for pet owners and dog trainers, it can be intimate and profound.

“A feeling for the organism” is how the famous geneticist Barbara McClintock described her own intuitions about life. Empathy as a capacity needn’t end at the human genus. It seems to be more a question of how much energy and intelligence and openness you bring to the inquiry. Obviously, the further away you get from the human, the more room for fantasy – this is a genuine risk – but this doesn’t mean there isn’t also a real sensitivity that can be cultivated.

Ways of Expanding Human Sensitivity

And indeed, when you pan out to the big picture of human knowledge, what you see are multiple lines of inquiry converging on this exact point. From the scientific world, we have the study of animal cognition and communication, as well as more cutting-edge domains like the study of animal sense worlds (or “umwelts”) and embodied cognition. From the philosophical world, investigators are beginning to elaborate a whole series of intriguing approaches, from “affordances” to the phenomenology of “inter-being,” to name just two ideas. All of these lay the groundwork for a kind of radical perspective-taking; they are different ways of illuminating sensibilities we once dismissed as opaque.

Non-Westerners, too, have their own insights, particularly animistic people that have remained in close relationship with nature. The Hopi, the Yanomani, even the Balinese – very different cultures that all describe some form of active reciprocity between humans and the natural world. Some of these cultures inform us that we can learn to pay attention to intuitions gleaned from other modes of consciousness via dreams and visions and even psychoactive plants.

Although these traditions and values are being challenged by modernity, they are also finding renewed expression in the work of sympathetic Western “deep ecology” thinkers, from Joanna Macy to Stephan Harding to David Abram, among others.

What kind of knowledge is dream-knowledge?

Finally, there is the role of imagination. As poet, critic, and inter-disciplinary rabble-rouser William Irwin Thompson writes in his introduction to Gaia: A Way of Knowing, imagination is not some epiphenomenal effusion with no bearing on the “real” world. It is, rather, a legitimate form of knowing and understanding and even sensing – in his excellent phrase, “a transform of awareness from other dimensions of sensitivity.”

We can and should learn to trust this more free-form style of awareness – it is the means by which we’re able to dramatize any interior, as every novelist and filmmaker and artist knows (even Nagel admits as such in one of his paper’s footnotes: “imagination is remarkably flexible”). Art opens new channels of intimacy and helps us formulate fresh questions and avenues of exploration. Animals are the next frontier, the next concentric circle out.

We are seeing many new examples of this. Novelist Barbara Gowdy is working on a film adaptation of her brilliant novel The White Bone, which is written entirely from the perspective of a herd of African elephants. Benjamin Hale’s recent The Evolution of Bruno Littlemore tells the story of a young chimpanzee’s acquisition of language.

These books are not in the same tradition as Animal Farm and Watership Down, where animals are clearly stand-ins for human characters. Rather, they are infusions of imagination and science, informed attempts to wrestle with very different sensibilities. We can find many recent nonfiction expressions of this too, for example in psychologist Alexandra Horowitz’s bestselling Inside a Dog, zoologist Tim Birkhead’s Bird Sense, journalist John Vaillant’s The Tigerand filmmaker Liz Marshall’s new documentary, The Ghosts in Our Machine.

So: Then What IS it Like to be a Bat?
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So what’s it like to be a bat? Some kind of air-born swoop in the belly, a feeling of tautness across the chest as the wings fold back. Sounds that part the space, a sense of surround and presence and immediacy. Appetite. A sense of satisfaction, and sometimes, of aversion and pain. A humid radiance in the head. Wind. Sleep and sleep-focused sniffing. Twitching in the face, larval purring in the throat. Something else, something more, something less.

Much of this will be wrong, of course – perhaps all of it. But it is also possible that some bit of it might be close. I don’t know what it’s like to be a bat. But I do know what it’s like to be a breathing and moving and sensing body in the world – we all do. That counts for something.

The once taboo subject of an animal’s subjective experience is a legitimate topic of inquiry. Our models will improve as the science improves – the neurobiology, the sensory ecology and all the rest. They will improve the more time we spend with animals. And they will improve the more risks we take with our empathy and our embodied imaginations.

Self-consciousness may be a rare trait, but all of nature experiences; in every being there is something we can relate to, whether it’s the purring of a cat, the intent swivel-gaze of a bird, or even the upward reach of a tree towards sunlight.

The degree to which we honor this intimacy with our fellow creatures is the degree to which we will truly feel at home on this planet. Their lives – and perhaps our own – depend on it.

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(Check out this article for a speculative deep water plunge into the experience of a forty-ton echolocating sperm whale)

Spiritual Oneness: The Literary Genre

This talk from the 2013 Science and Nonduality conference is about how books on spiritual “oneness” seem to work their magic on readers, and how they might do so more often and more effectively.

SriRamanaMaharshi-THUMBMy talk at the 2013 Science and Nonduality conference in Holland is about two things: how so-called “nondual” books (ie, books about spiritual oneness) seem to work their magic, and a few suggestions for how the next generation of nondual writers might do so often and more effectively.

The talk is on YouTube, here. I’ve written about nonduality here.

Environmentalism and the Mind

What kind of mind do we need to address climate change and environmental degradation? A mountain eco-laboratory in northern New Mexico looks at four possible answers: a social mind, a creative mind, a receptive mind and an equanimous mind.

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What kind of mind do we need to address climate change?

In January of this year, an academic named Paul Wapner delivered an interesting lecture at Iowa State University on what he calls “climate suffering.” A professor of environmental politics at American University in Washington and author of Living Through the End of Nature, the talk was different than others Wapner had delivered on the subject. It was not about environmental policy, nor was it about the actual physical privations that climate change is bringing to the world’s vulnerable populations (including non-human populations). It was, rather, about a more general kind of suffering, the suffering that comes from trying to fight climate change in the first place.

“I’m interested in responses to climate change that go beyond resistance,” Wapner told me. “To me, the pain associated with climate change is unavoidable. No matter how much we mitigate and adapt to climate change – which we absolutely should do – there will still be widespread hardship. So the question is, are there better ways of experiencing this hardship?”

Wapner began asking these questions, in part, because of the responses he noticed among his students when he would itemize the laundry list of horrors and challenges brought on by human-created environmental disruption and degradation.

“A few students would get fired into action. But by far, the majority would just be overwhelmed by the complexity and magnitude of the problem. There’s an assumption among many environmentalists that the best form of education is to scare people into interest and concern. But often the opposite happens – it leads to being overwhelmed and then, ultimately, to cynicism.”

Being overwhelmed, of course, is also a difficulty for educators themselves. There is a growing scientific literature on “exhaustion syndrome,” or burnout, a problem that affects all of us, activists and caregivers in particular. New research by psychologist Agneta Sandström of Umeå University in Sweden has found that burnout negatively affects sleep and memory and mood. No surprises there. The surprises, rather, were found in the brain. Although the symptoms of burnout look similar to depression, the burned out brain itself has a unique profile: high levels of the stress hormone cortisol and lowered frontal lobe activity, among other changes.

These are driven and ambitious type-A subjects that Sandström profiled. The very people whom we might imagine as the most effective at getting things done were, according to one report, “more prone to exhaustion syndrome.”

To overwhelm and to suffer mitigate our effectiveness. Given that our environmental problems are not going away anytime soon, one question that comes up is how can we best support ourselves in this work? Are there particular mental qualities we might cultivate when it comes to addressing environmental issues in particular?

This exact question is one that Wapner, with help from a three-year grant from the Fetzer Institute, has been exploring both in theory – in sustained discussions with a group of like-minded colleagues – and in practice at a week-long “Summer Institute” in the mountains of New Mexico.

I’ve played a role in both of these enterprises, but it’s the latter I want to focus on, because what Wapner has done is effectively create a kind of eco-laboratory in the mountains, designed to ground and sensitize, and ultimately create more resilience in the minds of its participants.

So far his experimental subjects have been a group of twenty-five academics who, last July, each paid 850 dollars to spend seven days living off-grid on a 100-acre piece of land known as the Lama Foundation (Wapner is currently recruiting subjects to repeat the experiment this July). Surrounded by the Carson National Forest, Lama has been a center for “inner work” since Ram Dass wrote Be Here Now under its looming ponderosa pines back in 1971. Today it is run by an energetic cooperative of young stewards who grow their own produce and have remade the compound into a sprawling showcase of funky do- it-yourself ecological design.

Over the week, participants move through four kinds of immersive experiences, each of which is designed to cultivate a different capacity of mind.

The first two capacities are the most familiar: the social mind and the creative mind. Participants joined in candid discussion and sharing, exploring both personal and professional issues around the environment and their own roles as educators. For many this was the first time they had been able to articulate their thoughts, concerns and emotions on the subject. The effect was cathartic for some, and indeed there is much new research coming out these days about how the simple act of illuminating one’s murky emotional interior can reduce distress and create other health benefits.

The insights continued with a series of creative exercises facilitated by the artist Nicole Salimbene. Using paint, sculpture and various mixed media, participants were encouraged to find new ways to think about old problems, to refresh both their approaches and the kinds of questions they asked. These activities were fun and often genuinely revelatory.

At this point the workshop moved into slightly less orthodox territory. Is there a kind of mind that opens and sensitizes us to nature in particular? Perhaps. This is the contention of David Abram, author of the eco-classic The Spell of the Sensuous and the more recent Becoming Animal (both excellent books; must reads!). Abram spent years living and studying with indigenous shamans around the world. What he found was a very different way of relating to nature, versus our own often heedless and forward-tumbling Western manner. These shamans, Abram contends, see themselves as immersed in a reciprocal relationship with nature. They don’t see nature as dumb or insentient. Rather, all of nature is intelligent and in constant communication with everything else. With practice, he argued, it was possible to tune into that conversation, something he worked to demonstrate on nature hikes, as participants tiptoed beneath the huge pines and among the slender swaying aspens.

Although Abram’s argument will sound New Agey to some, there is some tantalizing neurobiology to support at least the receptivity piece. Some neuroscientists distinguish between two forms of perception: egocentric and allocentric. The former is active, focal and directed – we are over here, deliberately directing our attention to a world out there. This awareness is instrumental – how does what I see relate to me as an acquisitive controlling ego? The latter is a very different system that uses a different set of brain circuits. “Allo” means “other;” this attention is passive, broad, impersonal and receptive. It doesn’t impose on the world, rather it lets the world impose – impress – on us.

It is this form of attention that Abram had the group practice. Can we walk through nature in this more receptive mode? Can we begin to trust our own participation in this much larger conversation? Soften your gaze, Abram encouraged us. Shift to the periphery. Trust your intuitions.

The experience of course was vague at first and sometimes unintentionally comic. It was hard not to giggle at the sight of these very serious professors staring softly and lovingly at various local shrubs. But, like any practice over time, our experience deepens. We learn to trust the vague blooms and feelings that pass through our bodies. In this way, Abram argued, we develop new sensitivities and, ultimately, new sources of support. One thing we can say with certainty is that when it comes to the health of the environment, all of nature is in this together.

It is here that I made my own modest contribution as the instructor of meditation. Every morning I taught the professors a different sitting practice, one they could also take with them into the day. Primarily a teacher of mindfulness meditation, I’ve been influenced by the Buddhist teacher Shinzen Young’s conception of mindfulness as the training of a three-fold attentional skill set. The first two attentional capacities are fairly straightforward: concentration and clarity. The first refers to our ability to attend to what we deem relevant; the second is our ability to make finer and finer discriminations about what is actually happening in our immediate experience.

But it is Young’s understanding of a third quality, equanimity, that ultimately had the most transformative effect on my own life and practice. In Young’s view, equanimity means something very specific: a lack of pushing or pulling on experience, which he likens to a reduction of sensory impedance or friction. It is here that human suffering is addressed. In Young’s famous equation (that is, famous to his many students), “suffering = pain x resistance.” Pain is an inevitable part of the human condition. Suffering is not. Suffering is a product of fighting with our pain – gripping, resisting, fixating. Doing so exponentially expands the original insult, which reverberates up and down the mind-body tract, stressing the whole system in all kinds of subtle and underappreciated ways.

So then, for our meditation classes, although we worked with different objects of awareness – inner talk, imagery, emotions, body sensations, sounds and sights, among others – the emphasis was always on finding the flavor of equanimity in our experience, which over time the meditator begins to recognize as a simultaneous smoothness and fullness, an easy- goingness that lubricates all our interactions and sensations, even our discomfort.

And here we come back full circle to the question of climate suffering. A burned out Type-A striver is no good to anyone. We need to cultivate as many resources as possible if we are going to address our planet’s challenges. These resources aren’t just external. They are also internal. They are capacities we can build; in the same way we have built our collective intelligence and our capacity for reason. In Wapner’s mountain laboratory, the social mind, the creative mind, the receptive mind, and the equanimous mind come together in a way that is thrilling and important.

Let the experiment continue.

Why Meditate

Maybe meditation is something you want to pursue, maybe it isn’t. In this ten minute clip, I lay out my own reasons for practice, and discuss an experience I had on retreat that brought the whole thing home.

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Maybe Meditation Boymeditation is something you want to pursue, maybe it isn’t. In this ten minute clip, I lay out my own reasons for practice, and discuss an experience I had on retreat that brought the whole thing home.

Among the Nonduals

Proponents of nonduality tell us that we take a leap of faith and actually live our lives from the truth of direct experience, eventually the age old barrier between inside and out will erode. A report from the 2013 Science and Nonduality conference in Holland.

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Rupert Spira at the Science and Nonduality conference

A man sits on a chair in front of a blank white screen. His hands are clasped in his lap and he speaks slowly and carefully. The conference audience in this quiet corner of Holland is rapt.

“Perception is conventionally believed to be divided into two essential ingredients: an inside self or subject, and an outside world or object. The belief that all experience is divided this way underpins our entire world culture – how we think, feel, act, perceive and relate.”

His voice is gentle. “Look around you. We think we see a room. In fact, all we know or experience is our perception of the room or world. Do you ever know or come into contact with anything other than the knowing of your experience? It’s not possible. All we really find in experience is knowing.”

The speaker’s name is Rupert Spira. He’s an Englishman, a ceramicist by training. His interest in perception comes by way of his art, and by way of his other career as a spiritual teacher and author.

Although it is unlikely Spira would put it in these terms, this part of what he is describing is, from a neuroscientific perspective, actually quite conventional. The world comes in all broken up via the senses and is assembled by the brain into a coherent model of reality. All we ever experience are these images and sensations and perceptions, which we take to be an honest accounting of a world beyond ourselves. Of course we do – that’s why perceiving is worth the bother.

For Spira, this recognition is the departure point for a radical reorientation in how we experience self and world. What if, Spira says (Spira and the other two dozen or so speakers), what if we don’t immediately rush into that very reasonable assumption of externality? What if we take a bizarre chance, and practice living our lives from the technically more accurate truth of direct experience, which presents to us only one thing: our own awareness?

If we actually do this, if we reframe experience in this way and patiently explore not the world, but our own personal world filters, then we will not find any sort of division between a self and a world, an inside and an outside. In fact, we will find no limits at all.

If this sounds like an unwanted excursion into freshman philosophy – at best an indulgence, at worst a solipsistic derangement – then that may be because you are trying to use common sense to follow and critique Spira’s argument.

Stop With the Intellectual Objections – Explore the Direct Experience Instead

Try some uncommon sense instead. Because it turns out that when you trust the instructions and actually begin to feel into this kind of experiential questioning with your whole being, something very interesting can happen. You may have heard the phrase a million times – something about oneness, something about the dream-like nature of reality, something about the outside being no different than the inside – except this time there’s a slippage in your conceptual guard. In Zen they call these well-timed phrases “turning words.” A bright shot of vertigo enters the system. The camera of your awareness lurches and resets and suddenly you are conscious of the weird fact – and breadth – of your existence in a fresh and more immediate way.

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Maybe you’ve experienced something similar in nature: a sudden view that pulls your breath from your body and resets your mind, an unexpected convergence of intimacy in the forest or sea. This “reorientation” is the opposite of exotic; indeed its very familiarity is said to be one reason it is so often overlooked. For many, the experience is accompanied by a sense of lightness and spaciousness and – for me anyway – of comedy. I usually giggle. Others describe it differently.

For some – call them the accidental few, although as the saying goes, practice makes you accident-prone – their perspective shifts and stays that way. It’s as though they crossed their eyeballs for too long, just like their mothers warned them about, and now – whoops – they went and got enlightened. Or awakened. Or whatever you want to call it.

If the shift begins as a very subtle and ordinary thing, the more years one percolates inside it, the more profound it can get, eventually uprooting all kinds of familiar structures of consciousness and leaving the former seeker just another chunk of vibrating cosmos, free and unbounded and participating in what they say is a paradoxically more accurate reality.

At least, that’s one way to talk about it.

scienceandnonduality-logoWelcome to the Science and Nonduality Conference (SAND), which I attended in Doorn, Holland last June, the sixth instalment in four years, a California export that every year finds a larger and larger international audience.

“Four hundred crazy people just like you!” says conference organizer Maurizio Benazzo, who introduced the proceedings. Maurizio is a tall and radiantly sentimental Italian, given to public displays of grateful weeping. Everyone loves him, even the normally stoic Dutch.

A Rational Approach to the Ineffable

“One day science will try to understand this nonduality – not to prove it, not to find The Truth, but to participate in The Mystery!” The crowd cheers.

The particular challenge of writing about nonduality is not that there is too little information about the subject; it’s that there is too much. There is so much noise that the signal is obscured. Technically, anyone writing about “oneness” – and this includes popular spiritual writers like Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie and Deepak Chopra and a legion of disorderly New Agers – is expressing a form of nonduality.

Indeed, some argue that a version of the idea – camouflaged in very different assumptions and language – can be found in all the world’s contemplative traditions, from Greek philosophy through to Buddhism and Taoism and each of the mystical branches of the Abrahamic religions. This belief is the centerpiece of the so-called Perennial Philosophy, which argues that all religions point to the same underlying reality, whether you call it God or Emptiness, Tao or the True Self.

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The great Adi Shankara, the 8th century unifier of Advaita philosophy

Nonduality also has a much more precise meaning in the smaller inter-disciplinary world of consciousness studies. It is a direct translation of “advaita,” part of the Advaita Vedanta school of Hindu philosophy, one of the oldest and the most rigorous branches of Indian thinking and practice.

Vedic purists would never translate “Advaita” as “oneness.” The more precise meaning, they insist, is “not-two.” If that distinction seems like hair-splitting, then this may not be the genre for you. Because nonduality is all about subtlety – all about exploring very fine paradoxes that, over time, are said to change the way you experience self and world.

For a journalist, it’s a slippery area to research, for everyone has a slightly different take on how to arrive at that underlying nondual reality, and what that reality actually entails. Different teachers emphasize their own way in, and usually disparage the other routes, which is why the elitist Tibetans roll their eyes at the gnomic Zennies, who smugly dismiss the striving Theravadans, who are enraged by the absolutist Vedantans, who make fun of the devotional theistics, who weep with joy and confusion and don’t actually care what the others say, because, like the famous “masts” of India, their engorged neural-circuits are sloshed on Divine love.

“I am not a nondualist. I don’t know what I am. I don’t know anything, and the not-knowing just gets thinner and thinner and thinner,” says Shantimayi, a charmingly candid former seeker from Ohio, now a spokeswoman for living without boundaries or fixations.

You get the sense that many of the speakers don’t even know why they are there – the experience just seemed to happen, and here they are on stage, looking bemused at the an equally-bemused audience, spontaneously manifesting their bafflement, or their certainty or, in some cases, their nihilism.

Who Cares?

So: why is all this worth the bother? There are many answers to this question. The first and most nondual is: I have no idea, nothing is worth the bother. That’s the so-called “absolutist” view, which is extremely annoying and probably why no one talks to “neo-Advaita” extremists at parties.

virtual-reality-1541316_960_720A better answer is it matters for understanding the nature of mind. If we look at nonduality in its most general form – the lived recognition that each of us is part of a much larger existential process – then many argue this where civilization’s great spiritual practices – meditation, prayer, koans, ecstatic dance – all lead.

If you believe practitioner reports – and until there’s a proper neuroscience that can address what’s happening in the nondual brain, all we have to go on are first-person descriptions of experience – then by all accounts the nondual operating space is fundamental to understanding who we are, how the mind works, and why we suffer.

And that is the other very good reason: human happiness. Life is hard. People are in pain. For two and a half thousand years contemplatives in every era and culture have repeated the same basic message: all mental anguish is descended from our unwitting and false identification with a limited self.

We think this is a religious message; they say it’s empirical. As we learn techniques for metabolizing the mercurial layers of interference and bias that come between ourselves and the world, not only do we suffer less, but so do all those we come into contact with. Far from being escapist, which is the usual 21st century dismissal of spiritual practice (we are impatient to act – call it our deepest bias), in an interconnected world, helping ourselves is actually the departure point for helping others.

So, that’s the Kool Aid – the pitch. As a meditation teacher, I basically buy it. I’ve seen how different practices can open people, can wake them up.

But I’ve also seen how it can rewire them, sometimes in ways many of us would find disturbing. This is the other part of why I attend these conferences; I’m interested in the specific and particular ways nonduality and nondual practices affect how people live – the so-called benefits, the challenges, the impact on relationships. To that end, in Holland I hosted a panel called “Filling in the Details” (click to watch) with three people who identify with and teach nonduality.

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I found – perhaps surprising given that this is supposed to be about an absolute – three very different understandings and experiences.

For Lisa Cairns, nonduality is the end of “stories” – the end of projecting onto other people your ideas and assumptions about who they and what they experience. Life for her is just happening, and the idea of creating any kind of continuous narrative out of it seems to her damaging and false.

For Gary Weber, at a certain point in his practice his whole pattern of relating changed. “When you let the “I” fall away, what happens is there is no one there to hold the other end of “I need you,” or “I want you” or “I love you.” I have no attachment to my family anymore – but my wife would say I’m a better husband for it, and my daughters that I’m a better father. I’m much more present than I used to be.”

For Tim Freke, reality is paradoxical. He lives with one foot in the perspective that everything is perfect, and another with the sense that, as the famous Zen teacher Suzuki Roshi once said, we “could always use a little improvement.” His attachments are what make him human; for Tim, the nondual project, if you can call it that, is not just to know ourselves, but to show ourselves, in a more fully human and loving way.

To the uninitiated, the language and the ideas at SAND are strange and sometimes frustrating. It may be hard to see how this boutique clique of 21st century practitioners and explorers might have anything to contribute to a proper science of mind. But I believe they do.

Something very interesting happens to the human mind over the course of dedicated spiritual practice. When you strip out the layers of interpretation and religious dogma (not to mention the endless if well-intentioned appeals to quantum physics), what you are left with is the raw evidence of people’s experience. Culturally-conditioned, yes – you can’t get around this. And yet, even so, they are real as experiences.

Spira has an interesting line. “Let experience be the test of reality.” We may not be quite ready for that, but we can at least take direct experience more seriously. After all, “empirical” means experience-based.

It’s where science itself began.

The most highly developed branches of the human family have in common one peculiar
 characteristic. They tend to produce … a curious and definite type of personality; a type which refuses to be satisfied with that which other men call experience, and is inclined, in the words of its enemies, to “deny the world in order that it may find reality.”  – Evelyn Underhill, Mysticism

Enlightenment: Is Science Ready to Take it Seriously?

Western psychology is still outgrowing a reactive skepticism towards the subjective anecdote that it inherited from behaviorism. Fortunately, this is changing. These days, there is a growing appreciation among investigators that if you want to understand consciousness – as opposed to just brain activity – you have to start taking first-person reports seriously. This will soon include reports of human “enlightenment.”

A Rant

By Jeff Warren

Will the transformation at the heart of mysticism ever be taken seriously by the secular mainstream? Maybe.

Let’s first get the tricky business of defining enlightenment out of the way.

For expediency’s sake, let’s define enlightenment as a complex and multi-faceted process by which the mind comes to know – and over time rest more securely in – its own ground. As this happens, our habitual sense of being a separate and bounded self begins to fade. Ultimately, the person for whom this happens no longer feels themselves to be an autonomous entity looking out at an external world; rather, they feel themselves, more and more, to be an intimate part of that world’s humid expression, an unfolding natural process no different than anything else in nature. As a result, practitioners report a liberating sense of freedom, ease, spontaneity. The volume of self-referential thought often decreases, although, since enlightenment happens along a deepening continuum, they are still routinely trapped in old habits of dualistic thinking.

Despite the fact that this transformation has been painstakingly described in virtually every contemplative tradition – from Buddhism, Taoism and Hinduism through to the mystical branches of the Western Abrahamic religions – and is the central drama in the lives of thousands of lucid and intelligent human beings, here in the West there is zero mention of the phenomenon in any of our bastions of intellectual respectability. You’ll never read about spiritual enlightenment in a Malcolm Gladwell book, or the pages of The New York Review of Books. This is true even in most Western Buddhist books, where enlightenment may be mentioned as a general principle or orientation, but almost never as a tangible transformation that happens to real 21st-century human beings.

The reason for this probably has to do with accessibility. The first American Buddhist teachers, most of them operating out of the Insight Meditation Society (Joseph Goldstein, Sharon Salzberg, Jack Kornfield and others), acted as skillfully as possible to bring the benefits of meditation to a large secular audience. Given how skittish Western intellectuals are around religious themes, the last thing you’d want to do here is start raving on about mystical oneness. There is also a lively debate in the spiritual world about the advisability of even mentioning different states and stages. On the upside it can help orient practitioners within often strange and difficult experiences; on the downside it can burden them with unrealistic expectations of “progress” that end up getting in the way. Compounding this, there are whole schools of contemplative thinking who argue that all of us are already enlightened; we have no where to go and nothing to do.

The majority of old-guard U.S. Buddhist teachers erred on the side of caution; as a consequence most of their books are filled with sensible soft-dharma insights gently shaped to fit our general Western model of psychotherapy. There are exceptions, and those exceptions, I’d like to argue, are about to become the new rule.

There is a new spirit of openness, for instance, in both the culture of spirituality and the culture of science.  One spiritual Trojan horse is yoga. Another is the increasingly popular practice of “mindfulness.” Both of these are powerful spiritual technologies. Most people approach them for practical fitness or stress-reduction reasons, and this is all they ever deliver on. But, for a small percentage, something else happens. They find themselves – deliciously, inexorably, sometimes alarmingly – moving along a course of spiritual development they never expected.

I teach mindfulness meditation, so I have a particular interest here. Mindfulness is the practice of bringing clarity and concentration and equanimity to our moment-by-moment experience. Doctors chirp happily about its secular benefits even as the terrifying specter of loving mystical connectedness pours from the belly of the horse. You can thank Jon Kabat-Zinn for this. His pioneering Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction model is everywhere – over 120 medical centers in the US alone offer mindfulness programs, and there has been a commensurate scientific interest in the subject – official NIH-funded studies on mindfulness have gone from two in the year 2000 to 128 in 2010. Mindfulness in small doses is an immensely helpful way to address stress and anxiety and pain and all kinds of other conditions. Mindfulness in large doses is called vipassana; it rewires the brain and extirpates the sense of a separate self. Come for the raisin, stay for the perspective-shuddering cosmic U-turn. What starts subtle can grow, and, as the brilliant Buddhist teacher Shinzen Young says, “subtle is significant.”

In the multidisciplinary world of consciousness studies, the buzzword is nonduality, a translation of Advaita (literally “not two”), an ancient branch of Hindu philosophy. I’ve presented at two ‘Toward a Science of Consciousness’ meetings, a terrific annual assembly of the biggest names in neuroscience and philosophy of mind, among them Antonio Damasio, David Chalmers, Wolf Singer, Susan Greenfield, Stuart Hameroff and others. For the past few years nonduality has been a popular subject of discussion. There is even a dedicated ‘Science and Nonduality’ conference – now in its fourth year – that features some of the same speakers, many of them offering straight-to-the-bone “Direct Path” instruction in books and DVDs and weekend workshops.

The Internet is the great culprit in all of this. Where once you had to climb a mountain in Tibet to get answers to spiritual questions, you can now find them on Wikipedia, or an easily-arranged Skype call. Enlightenment is the Internet subject par excellence – vague, contradictory, fiercely blogged about by ill-credentialed authorities. It’s no small irony that the very medium that is hopelessly fragmenting human attention is simultaneously offering up some of the necessary tools to heal us – that is, if you can separate the wheat from the chaff.

Within American Buddhism, the heart of this new transparency calls itself “Pragmatic Dharma.” The influential Buddhist Geeks podcast and conference is at the center of it. For the past few years, in popular interviews with dozens of scientists and teachers, they talk openly about different aspects of the awakening process, including frank testimonials of their own enlightenment experiences. This is a culture of learning and experimenting and exploring together. The Geeks believe – as do I – that the reticence and secrecy around spiritual transformation is no longer helpful or productive.

How do we know that all of these self-described enlightened practitioners and teachers aren’t bullshitting us? We don’t. And we won’t until we find some identifying neural signature in the brain, if such a signature even exists. I know several neuroscientists working on this question right now.

In my own case, I have stopped quibbling. People I’ve known for years tell me about their enlightenment experiences and I believe them. I believe them because my curiosity about what may be happening in the mind is greater than my allegiance to an outdated and uninformed scientific consensus. Western psychology is still outgrowing a reactive skepticism towards the subjective anecdote that it inherited from behaviorism. Fortunately, this is changing. These days, there is a growing appreciation among investigators that if you want to understand consciousness – as opposed to just brain activity – you have to start taking first-person reports seriously. This will soon include reports of enlightenment.

Science changes. That’s what it’s supposed to do. How it stands to change from enlightenment is something I’ll address in my next column.

 

Dynamic Care in Action

What does the practice of dynamic care look like in real life? From protesting to sewing masks, from making documentary films to listening to records to exploring genealogy, in this article I showcase a range of creative practices, submitted by all of you. The community is the teacher.

I recently wrote about Dynamic Care — a balanced way to think about how we can use practice to help ourselves and each other.

How might this work in real life?

The following practices were submitted by all of you. I’ve organized them into four quadrants. Real life, of course, doesn’t have compartments. Our practices blur lines – any one practice may simultaneously be both active and restful, may benefit both ourselves and the world. Nevertheless, I think it’s useful to name these quadrants, if only to broaden our understanding of the full spectrum of care.

The community is the teacher.

QUADRANT 1: ACT / CHANGE SELF

dynamic care gridThese practices are about deliberately modifying the self. They’re about learning new skills, and building supportive habits, and generally staying responsive and awake to the changing world.

Walking with a Cane I’m blind, so I travel with a white cane. Before I leave for work in the morning, I take a second to run my hand along it, reminding myself how elegant and sleek it is, and how quickly and freely I can move through town with it. Laying these thoughts on my cane like this before I go, sets up a kind of sphere of calm around me. It doesn’t stop people from grabbing me, or shouting directions at me, or asking me stupid-ass rude questions. But my magic calm sphere gives me a moment to breathe before I respond, choosing how I will react. When I get to work, I’m not quite as pissed off at humanity … and a little readier to be present for my students and colleagues. – Sheri Wells-Jensen

Building Jigsaw Puzzles I recently read a book by Daniel Levitin called Successful Aging. One of the takeaways was the suggestion that, as we age, we must work at keeping our mind active by challenging it to do new things. My choice has been jigsaw puzzles. They help me focus. I often have “monkey brain,” and boy do you understand what that means when you’re attempting to find a single puzzle piece among literally hundreds of choices. I find I’m more focused after doing my jigsaw puzzle than either after a strenuous workout or a meditation. – J. B.

Learning to Paint I started four years ago with no experience since grade school. Like meditation, some days it’s easier and some days it’s harder, but it’s always rewarding. At best, it’s a mental cleanse with my mind getting a vacation from it’s more typical uptight, verbal existence. At these times, I swear I can feel the shift from doing to being. It’s also pretty cool that sometimes I end up with something to hang on my wall or give to someone. I think this is helping me learn to be a more balanced person, to trust my intuition, and to embrace my creativity. – Robin Westacott

Drinking an Entire Quart of Water When I worked in restaurants as a chef, which was terribly exhausting, I’d get reactionary to every tiny issue that came my way. My breath and focus would spiral uncontrollably. Then I figured out my water practice. I’d put the [quart] container to my lips and not pull it away until the container was done. This forced me to focus on my breath, like someone that was snorkeling. One breath in, through the nose. One breath out, through the nose. I eventually learned to focus my gaze on the water for the whole practice, instead of the stimuli coming from the kitchen. Now when I do this practice, I focus on Bruce Lee’s quote “Be the water.” – Rob Velazquez

Examining My Whiteness I’ve been going through Layla F. Saad’s Me and White Supremacy 28-day challenge workbook. Each day I read Saad’s prompts and write a journal response. It’s been interesting. I once thought of “racism” as a single monolithic thing that didn’t relate to me as a “good white person.” Saad challenges this by revealing a whole topography of white behaviours, assumptions and strategies – from white fragility to tone policing to “optical allyship” – that, sometimes, do relate to me. There are many practices here: seeing what once was hidden, learning to tolerate my own resistance and discomfort, and finally thinking about how to adjust my words and deeds to better support Black and Indigenous lives. “Never forget that justice is what love looks like in public,” Cornel West famously said. Saad calls this “Love work” – the practice, in her phrase, “of becoming a better ancestor.” – Jeff Warren

QUADRANT 2: REST / ACCEPT SELF

All practices change us; the ones below are no exception. The difference is … they aren’t trying to. They’re not trying to improve or accomplish anything – that’s the point. These practices are about enjoying the simple restorative pleasures of being human.

Listening to Records I’ve always been a huge fan of music and vinyl. Since Corona I’ve been taking time to listen to old and new records, sitting in front of the record player and paying a lot of attention to the music. Just like I used to as a kid. – Cinderella Baksa-Soós

 

Napping The one thing I do extremely deliberately – when my schedule allows it – is nap. I don’t mean a quick power nap in the middle of the day, but a proper 2 hour nap in my PJ’s. This practice helped me stay on track with writing my PhD and it has helped me during the current lockdown. It is the single biggest reason why I’m more productive with work activities than I would be on a normal day at the University. Taking naps helps me manage migraines, work more hours in a day (productively — without drifting off to Facebook), and it gives me more energy for workouts. I could talk about napping for hours. – Petra

Walking in the Woods When I walk through the woods I feel “embraced,” “contained.” I feel safe and protected by the trees … I never feel alone, although I am almost always by myself. I am calm. I smell the earth, hear (and sometimes talk to) the birds. I look for new shoots, trees budding. In this act, I am lifted out of whatever anxieties I came into the woods with. I may not solve a bunch of problems, but I can at least accord myself some time in the day where I don’t have to ruminate or worry. And this calm builds on itself. It is strength.  – Heidi K. Wiedemann

Playing I’m playing more with my kids outside — crazy games my husband has made up, like this wacky ‘jazzminton’ game with paddles and a weighted feather ‘birdie’, kicking the soccer ball around … the play has been the nicest surprise, brings a real hit of joy and an unexpected release of tension. Plus it’s just fun! – Erin McCarthy

QUADRANT 3: ACT / CHANGE WORLD

I think deliberate practice has a net-positive effect on the world: rest practices restore our energy; active practices express it. Here are contemporary versions of what in Hinduism is known as Karma yoga – practices serving people, serving causes, serving organizations, and serving cats.

Protesting Last week, I attended a protest for racial justice. I marched with thousands of others; we raised our signs and our voices together in support of Black lives and to oppose police brutality. Our common purpose and sense of community was strong, and I felt the connection in my body as I marched. The protest finished outside our city’s courthouse, where we continued to stand together. We listened to Black leaders share their stories and hopes for the future. Towards the end, a Black woman got on the microphone and told the white people (like me) to walk over to a Black person and face them. I turned towards a Black man standing behind me. As the woman instructed, I looked into his eyes, paused, and said “You are my brother.” He paused, looked into my eyes, and said, “You are my sister.” My whole being filled with joy; our shared humanity became a felt sense. After some silence, both of us still looking at each other, he said “Thank you for being here.” I said “There’s nowhere else I’d rather be.” There was such truth and clarity in that moment. I realized: that is the practice.  – Brooke Thomas

Making Documentary Films Sometimes my films deal with big themes and ideas – but my filmmaking process always depends on observational attention to detail, to the present moment. One thing I like to do when I’m shooting is choose a frame that’s interesting, set up the camera, start rolling, and then just wait. I wait for something to happen – for something to enter the frame, to cross through it, to bring movement into the frame. As opposed to chasing after “everything that moves”, always being a step behind, trying to catch up with the action. Lewis Hyde wrote, “The gift moves toward the empty place.” Creating that space and stillness for something to appear – much like the practice of meditation. – Robin McKenna

Sewing Masks I’ve turned my tiny garage in California into a sewing studio and I’ve been meditatively sewing PPE masks to donate to farm workers. I have sewn and donated more than 200 face masks to vulnerable communities around the Bay Area and also just sent a batch of face masks to the Northern Diné Navajo reserve in New Mexico. Making masks for others provides me with an extraordinary practice of self-care and the feeling of fulfillment that I’m helping others who need it the most.   – Michelle Jones

Improving Teamwork I help teams diagnose what’s preventing them from doing their best work, and then I prescribe simple remedies and rituals and practices. Some of these practices help colleagues solve tough problems, some create trust and psychological safety, and some clear up misunderstandings and conflict. I love doing this work. When it clicks it feels like alchemy, like 1 + 1 + 1 = 3.5. We get bigger together.  – Matt Thompson

Writing Handwritten Letters I enjoy writing handwritten letters to people. There is a stillness and contemplative aspect to it that slows me down while reaching out to someone else. In this busy world of fast technology, writing may be “old school,” yet I’ve found it to be therapeutic. It helps me live.  – Julie Merrick

Petting Cats My practice is petting my cats with such love that my body and mind shift to a noticeable healing mode. The singular attention on my pets inspires heightened awareness naturally, because the love for them makes it easy. As I do this, I’m effortlessly cultivating skills of focus, kindness, and clarity for other parts of my life, and I feel more open to whatever the day brings. That “practice love” for my cats spills over to my world. All this is more possible because of the scaffolding of sitting meditation skills and experiences.  – Jill Badonsky

QUADRANT 4: REST / ACCEPT WORLD

This may be the hardest form of practice, especially for change-makers. These practices are about adapting ourselves to what’s happening, rather than forcing what’s happening to adapt to us. They’re about pausing, and listening. What are we being shown?

Searching for Beauty I call it “searching for beauty”. Often it involves looking up and noticing details, like the composition of branches against a sky, or the movement of leaves or the colours in the sky or shapes in the clouds. At other times, it means looking deeply, which involves stopping and examining the pattern of bark or the interior of a flower or the striations in broken wood on a fallen tree or the whorl of grasses on the earth. Often I capture the beauty with a photo. Most of my searches for beauty take place while walking my Dalmatian! – Toozie

Exploring Geneaology I practice researching my family history at least once a week, often every day. The process of researching my ancestors and learning about their lives grounds me and reassures me that this moment that I’ve been given is to be treasured and appreciated. – Sherri Taggart Ahmadzadeh

Gardening I love cultivating life, nurturing it, and I enjoy watching the lifecycle of a plant unfold before my eyes. It’s a good reminder of the impermanence of things. When the conditions are right, my vegetables will grow. When the conditions are right, this virus will pass. So, just like with my garden, I’m patient and I wait. I enjoy the everyday beauty around me: the breeze in my hair, the sun on my skin, the scent of spring flowers. I’m grateful for the slow down, the newfound time to focus on and bond with my family. – Kenzie Fox

Just Looking I’ve made it a daily practice, often several times a day, to simply “see out” anytime I am walking outside, whether it be in nature, or walking on Bloor Street, as I do frequently. Seeing the sky and clouds is usually the trigger. I take a pause to pay close attention to the whole visual field, as widely as possible and to repeat a Ram Dass mantra: “I am loving awareness” many times. And I look momentarily for who it is that is seeing. Often I seem to meld into the visual field. I find it consistently awe inspiring and feel grateful for being part of it all. It helps me answer Ramana Maharshi’s basic question: “Who am I?” – Bob

Listening to the Wind Every night I go outside before bed, sometimes I have so many clothes on I wobble out. I sit in a deck chair and make sure all the lights are out. I live in the country, so it can get pretty dark. I sit for at least 30 minutes and listen to the wind. It makes me focus on something transient to impress how ‘a moment’ feels. The wind at first seems very simple. But the more you listen, you can feel how multidimensional it is … volume, speed, direction … what’s in it, rain or leaves, where it’s going, up into the universe, with my thoughts, or maybe skimming the surface of the land, loud with other beings. It has life. It is life. I breathe the wind. When I started this practice I was just aiming to sit still, then it developed to sounds around me, and after a few months … hours would pass! I am connected to life. – Pam

Thank you to the many generous readers who’ve shared practices with me. Reading these practices puts an existential highlighter under our lives: ‘you mean, that’s a practice? I can do that.’ Or maybe: ‘I already do that.’ In different ways, they connect us to what matters.

For a deeper dive into creative practice and “being your own teacher,” my friend Dan Harris recently interviewed me about all this on his Ten Percent Happier podcast, here.

– Jeff

PS – The Practice of Mutual Aid. From Jia Tolentino, in The New Yorker:

“When I asked Rebecca Solnit about the evidence that disasters have prompted lasting civic changes, she pointed me to a number of specific organizations, and described their histories, but she also emphasized something less tangible, something she “heard over and over again from people,” she said. “They discovered a sense of self and a sense of connection to the people and place around them that did not go away, and, though they went back to their jobs in a market economy and their homes, that changed perspective stayed with them and maybe manifested in subtler ways than a project.” She added, “If we think of mutual aid as both a series of networks of resource and labor distribution and as an orientation, the former may become less necessary as ‘normal’ returns, but the latter may last.” 

 

CBC Now Or Never Show

In this episode of Now or Never, Jeff explains why he created the “most boring” videos ever and why slowing down is important for ourselves and our communities.

From the CBC radio Now or Never show: “Even now, with many of us stuck at home, carving out the time or finding the space to slow down can feel impossible.

And then, when you do, what does it even look like? How do you silence the voice that just keeps nagging you about all the things you need to do?

On this Now or Never we are doing our best to quiet that voice, and pressing the pause button with Canadians who are finding creative ways to slow down.

  • Twice a week, people get together online on YouTube to watch Jeff Warren do… nothing. The Canadian meditation expert explains why he created the “most boring” videos ever and why slowing down is important for ourselves and our communities.
  • It’s easy to tell somebody that they should slow down and take a break — but try saying that to single parent Dara Squires. The Newfoundland mom-of-three is struggling to find a moment to focus on herself… That isn’t at 1:30 in the morning.
  • Meet Yellowknife birdwatcher Reid Hildebrandt. Every morning, he heads to the water to observe the birds. What has he learned about the rewards of sitting very still and very quiet for a very long time?
  • Shanelle McKenzie is used to hustling, growing up with a mother who she saw as “Superwoman,” but who seldom took a break for herself. Drop in on a conversation with Shanelle and her daughter Kallie, about how they are learning to slow down together.
  • Could you go 24 hours without your cell phone? That’s precisely what Winnipeg teenager Richard Ilagan did — which taught him an important lesson about slowing down and disconnecting.
  • When the pandemic hit, Cara Manuel of Radeyilikoe, NWT, re-engaged with the arduous traditional process of tanning moose hide, giving her rare moments of reflection and ancestral connection”.

Listen to the full episode here. It starts at about 45 minutes in.

The Head Trip

My guide to all the weird permutations of waking and sleeping consciousness – the UK’s Independent called it “exhilarating,” The New York Times’s Sandra Blakeslee called it “audacious, enchanting, and often hilarious.” My Mom called it “long.”

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The Head Trip, Random House, 2007

The UK’s Independent called it “exhilarating,” The New York Times’s Sandra Blakeslee called it “audacious, enchanting, often hilarious” and neuroscientist Adrian Owen in The Guardian called it one of the “Top Ten Books about Consciousness“. My Mom called it “long.” More reviews below.

The Head Trip is a guide to the neuroscience and inner experience of waking, sleeping and dreaming. It is also a ridiculous attempt on my part to classify all the most elemental ways we are aware, which, as my friend Matt says, is like trying to stick Post-It notes on the ocean. Classify and then remix them.

The narrative is me acting as a guinea pig for various scientific and quasi-scientific experimentation, from sleep lab analysis, to lucid-dreaming (more here), hypnotic induction, neurofeedback trials, meditation retreats and more. Lots on the reality-bending nature of dreaming, one of the first popular accounts of neuroplasticity, and a chapter on ancestral sleep patterns, among others. The book will introduce you to you own mind, which may cause you to recoil, for it’s not everyday that you meet such a freak.

Click here for a short summary in The New Scientist.

I made this website when Head Trip came out – it has more info, and illustrations. I drew over 50 comic book style illustrations for this book! You can check out some of them here. I love drawing and like trying to create visual metaphors out of mind body abstractions. Also if you want to see some ridiculous publicity stuff I did back in 2007 with my poofy hairdo and over-the-the-top Enneagram 7 style, check out this video tour of the mind. Also check out this beautiful comic panel about my book, Journey to The Centre of the Mind.

NOTE: The Head Trip is out of print, so it’s hard to find. Try your local library, or you may be able to find it here (US) or here (Canada).

Some Reviews

“Thanks for The Head Trip! You’ve invented and simultaneously mastered a wonderful new kind of hugely informative and meticulously rollicking science writing, and I can’t wait for your next book.”
-Tony Hiss, author of The Experience of Place


“I love your book!” -Oliver Sacks, author of Anthropologist on Mars


remdream-icon“In The Head Trip, Jeff Warren takes readers on an audacious, enchanting, and often hilarious journey into the slippery nature of human consciousness, from deep slumber to lofty states of enlightenment. This book will blow your mind.” -Sandra Blakeslee, co-author of On Intelligence


“Thoroughly entertaining … exhilarating … You’ll never look at waking, sleeping or dreaming the same way again.” -Doug Johnstone, The Independent [LINK]


parasomnia-iconThe best contemporary book on the psychology of consciousness.” – Andre Kukla, University of Toronto prof, author of Mental Traps.


“In The Head Trip, Warren plunges into mundane and exotic states of mind with the verve of an intrepid travel writer…Warren’s initial motivation, he confides, was that of an experience junkie. By availing his body and brain to sleep scientists, hypnotists, neurofeedback researchers and the like, he hoped to savor all the “special effects” the mind is capable of orchestrating. With prose full of humor and nuance – no small feat for a topic as vague and subjective as consciousness – he makes that enthusiasm absolutely infectious. Especially since these states of mind are available to anyone. In that sense, Head Trip almost reads like an Oliver Sacks essay turned inside out; instead of rare neurological cases, we get the standard-issue noggin, which turns out to be every bit as exotic.” –Trey Popp, front page of San Francisco Chronicle Book Review [LINK]


daydream-icon“Jeff Warren … is my kinda guy: an experiential pragmatist in the William Jamesian mode, he is restlessly eclectic, deeply informed but pop, aggressively open to (and dissatisfied with) both neuro-reductionist and mystical accounts of consciousness, and keenly aware of the anthropological soup all this stuff is floating in … There are tons of books about consciousness, but … The Head Trip is an entertaining, substantive, and deeply stimulating book that, by staying focused on the concrete, actually contributes something to the field … a much more interactive picture of consciousness than the wiring diagrams and evolutionary-psych workouts we have come to expect from pop science accounts of the mind.” -Erik Davis, author of Techgnosis [LINK]


The Head Trip is an amazing book. Jeff Warren manages to be funny while packing in tons of fascinating science. Rather than sticking to conventional boundaries, Warren follows his own formidable curiosity, producing a book that is quirky, refreshing and nothing short of groundbreaking.” -Tom Stafford, co-author of Mind Hacks


luciddream-icon“Call it a travel guide to consciousness. From familiar landmarks like REM sleep and daydreaming to more exotic way stations like the “pure conscious event,” Warren’s exhilarating tour probes 12 varieties of conscious experience. Between lucid outlines of the latest research, Warren recounts his own adventures: training his attention with neurofeedback, trying his hand at Buddhist meditation, and banishing artificial light in search of a tranquil nocturnal wakefulness known as “the watch.” Culling the insights of anthropologists, neuroscientists, and monks, Warren offers a heady trip indeed.” –Psychology Today


“Warren’s hilarious writing makes the nearly 400 jam-packed pages a fun and entertaining read. Using dozens of interviews wide a wide range of scientists, Warren paints a picture of the current scientific understanding that underlies each state. But the real strength of The Head Trip is that Warren gives first-hand accounts of what it means to experience each variant of consciousness ”¦ The Head Trip opens the reader’s eyes to what it really means to wake, sleep and dream; it is “a trip into our own wheeling heads.” -Nicole Branan, Scientific American Mind


pce-icon“It never occurred to me that you could write a travelogue about your own mind, but that is more or less what journalist Jeff Warren has done with The Head Trip, an entirely original and completely fascinating tour through the myriad states of human consciousness. For a lay person who loves books by Oliver Sacks, or other such dispatches from the realms of neuropsychology, this field guide to the latest mind/brain research is a must-read…There are no drugs involved. It is not altered consciousness that interests Warren, but the transmutable guises of everyday perception. He takes us around the clock, beginning at midnight, to explore 12 distinct states of being that raise some incredibly interesting questions about what it means to be conscious…a rich blend of research, theory and personal encounter.” –Patricia Pearson, The Toronto Star [LINK]


“[The Head Trip] is staggeringly ambitious in scope”¦and yet it’s also friendly and direct. The scientific research is solid and sometimes daunting to readers who haven’t retained much from past biology and chemistry classes, but the tone is conversational, smart and often wickedly funny”¦. one gets the sense of a fully engaged mind weaving an overwhelming glut of fascinating material into a synthesized, though multilayered, whole. And just as we must use the mind to examine the mind, Warren is fully present at all times in the narrative, with all his doubts, vulnerabilities and anxieties along with his infectious enthusiasm for learning about what makes us tick. It’s a highly readable, innovative work – while there have been many pop-science books on consciousness written for a general audience, this is the first to approach the topic from a personal perspective.”
–Damian Rogers, Eye Weekly


pce-icon“Best book of the year. Using an original approach, Jeff Warren distinguishes twelve different states of consciousness, from lucid dreaming to the transcendental. It stands out because the author bases his ideas not only on the views of neuroscientists, anthropologists and meditation practitioners but also on his own personal explorations. Particularly fascinating are his discoveries about the murky realm of sleep. Sprinkled with comic panels, this book is as entertaining as it is insightful.” – Peter Russell, author of The Global Brain


“Jeff Warren has done a great job with The Head Trip. Writing about any aspect of consciousness is treacherously difficult, but his take on the subject is clear, original and ” amazingly ” funny!” -Rita Carter, author of Mapping the Mind and Exploring Consciousness


watch-icon“As readable and fun as a novel, yet accurate and up-to-date, The Head Trip is about your most precious possession – your consciousness – and the fascinating states it goes through.” -Charles T. Tart, author of Altered States of Consciousness


daydream-iconThe Head Trip is notably distinct from most books on the subject of consciousness. Rather than issue recondite field reports on contending theories, such as the debate between those who believe that what we call “the mind” can be located in the neurons and other physical properties of the brain, and those who contend that it is an irreducible process, Warren instead sets out to actually experience what it feels like to measure, and inhabit, altered states of consciousness …He treks in winter to an isolated cabin without electricity, heat or water to experience sleep the way our ancestors did…In another exploration, Warren uses a delightfully odd device called a NovaDreamer to induce “lucid dreaming” … He also endeavors mightily to become hypnotized, experiments with biofeedback and spends seven days at a meditation retreat. Through all these inner adventures, he gracefully interweaves descriptions of new empirical methods to detect and describe conscious states … in The Head Trip, [Warren] manages to plumb inner depths that few other writers have attempted to explore.” -Michael Antman, Chicago Sun-Times


“In this likeably evocative book, Jeff Warren goes on a safari of his own mind … The author illustrates his ideas with cartoon strips and amusingly rambling footnotes, and the book is full of sentences that make you stop and consider daily experience from a different angle. For example: “All wakefulness is in theory sleep deprivation.” It struck a powerful chord with me.” -Steven Poole, The Guardian

 

Expanding Mind II – Exploring Meditation

Talk with Erik Davis and Maja D’Aoust. Gets right into big questions around the experience of meditation, the vastness of the territory, the multiplicity of practices, the relationship between insight and ethics, the mystery of human enlightenment and – to keep it modest – science and the nature of reality.

April 2013 talk with Erik Davis and co-host Maja D’Aoust for their Progressive Radio Network show “Expanding Mind.” Touches on the experience of meditation, the richness of spiritual practice, the relationship between insight and ethics, the mystery of human enlightenment and – to keep it modest – science and the nature of reality.

To download the interview, click here.

 

Mind and Technology

First We Make Brains, Then We Make Love! The power of communications technology to shape our brains and behaviours is a little scary. It may also be the greatest design opportunity of our generation.

Group MindFrom a talk at the 2012 Dreamers, Renegades, Visionaries festival in Toronto. About how technology affects the mind, and how some developers are thinking about ways of integrating principles of mindfulness and mental health directly into the hardware and software of our smartphones, operating systems and other interfaces.

The content of this talk is good, but the delivery is a bit deranged. Looking at it later, I realized I was in a manic episode. The joys of mental health!

 

10% Happier Podcast – How to Be Your Own Teacher

Jeff and Dan talk all about the wide-world of practice beyond the meditation cushion, about what it means to be your own teacher and Jeff’s idea of the different stage of practice that people all go through – regardless of their particular commitment.

From the 10% Happier with Dan Harris Podcast, episode #241 Crisis Advice from “Meditation MacGyver” | Jeff Warren:

We talk all about the wide-world of practice beyond the meditation cushion, about what it means to be your own teacher and Jeff’s idea of the different stage of practice that people all go through, regardless of their particular commitment.

More HERE.

 

Making Art in Dream Space

The Dream Director is not unlike a set of DJ turntables, only the medium it remixes is the mind – the proto medium. As the DJ, the user can select from an infinite number of effects. The weirder the combination, the stranger the conjured world… come remix the dreaming mind.

Today when we think about the science of sleep and dreaming we imagine EEG polygraphs and fMRIs of cloudy cranial matter. The brain is the primary object of study. It was not always so. Back in the 19th century there was no direct way to observe the brain’s activity, and yet there were plenty of inquisitive scientists, and plenty of interest in dreaming. What was a scientist to do?

The answer, of course: conduct experiments. Researchers – usually solitary gentlemen physicians with a certain amount of disposable income – would use their bedrooms as laboratory, and often their own person as subject. Their main tool was external stimuli. As they slumbered, an assistant or servant would introduce sounds, smells, lights and other sensations to the sleeper and record both external physiological responses (grunts, twitches, sighs, exclamations) and – once the dreamer had woken – internal psychological responses (actual dream reports). What they found was that the apparent insensitivity of the sleeper to the external world was not absolute. Certain judiciously-applied stimuli could affect the course of the dream itself.

The Scottish physician Robert Macnish, who published The Philosophy of Sleep in 1836, describes a couple such anecdotes:

“…A friend of mine happening to sleep in damp sheets, dreamed that he was dragged through a stream. Another friend dreamed he was stroking a kitten that purred most lustily. On awakening, he found that the working of the heavy machinery of a neighboring mill was slightly shaking his bed, and making the joints produce a sound like the purring of a cat…”

Most of us have experienced something like this – we’ve dreamt of the school bell only to wake and discover our alarm ringing at the side of the bed. This little-know psychological phenomena is called “incorporation.”

Many of these early investigators came up with ingenious methods of exploration. In the 1890s, the American neurologist Leonard Corning built a device in which metallic saucers were placed over the ears connected via tubing to an Edison phonograph, while a stereopticon – ancestor of the film projector – cast “chromatoscopic images” onto the wall facing the sleeper. Although the effectiveness of the visual projections is disputable, Corning claimed the music (usually Wagner) produced salutary, even transcendent dreams.

These days there is a growing body of scientific evidence to suggest external stimuli can shape dream experience. To cite just one example, in a recent study by the American Academy of Otolaryngology-Head and Neck Surgery (member since 1999), researchers exposed a group of 15 healthy dreaming women to, at different times, the smell of roses, and the smell of rotten eggs. All of the women reported positive dreams post-rose exposure, and negative dreams post-egg.

There are fairly generic and perhaps universal effects; the dreams get even more interesting when the stimuli have specific personal associations: the smell of hot chocolate that reminds the dreamer of winter skating in childhood, or a song which fills them with vague longing for an old lover. Our dreams are playgrounds for our memories. As the Harvard sleep researcher Robert Stickgold once told me,  “Dreams are clearly constructed from memories. We have nothing else to build them out of.”

The French ethnographer Marquis d’Hervey de Saint-Denys, who wrote about his dream experiments in his classic 1862 text, Les réves et les moyens de les diriger (Dreams and How to Guide Them), used his own memories in just this way. One evening at a Parisian ballroom, the dashing Marquis convinced the orchestra leader to play one waltz when he danced with the beguiling Madame X, and another when he danced with the equally attractive Madame Y. When he returned home he rigged an alarm to a mechanical music box and programmed it to go off towards the end of his sleep, when he was most likely to be dreaming. On mornings the first waltz played, he dreamt of Madame X; on mornings the other played, he dreamt of Madame Y. I ask you: was there a cooler cat in the whole of France?

Today interest in incorporation is staging a comeback; a few technologies have appeared that deliberately use external stimuli to control the dream narrative. The most interesting of these is a fascinating contraption called the Dream Director. And therein lies a tale.

One of the pleasurable hazards of writing about the mind is that you get all kinds of unusual people contacting you with their various consciousness-raising theories and projects. Mostly these folks just want to talk; Paul wanted to talk too.  He also wanted me to write a manual for his invention.

Within a week he had sent me a Dream Director in the mail. It looked very professional – a squat plastic tower with controls on the top and a series of ports along the bottom, each for a different sensory “arm.” One arm is auditory – a thin wire leads to a soft pillow-wrapped speaker. One is visual – a facemask studded with colored lights. Another is tactile – a vibrating nub the size of a small bar of soap. And a final separate attachment is olfactory – a miniature hot plate designed to melt scent-infused wax “tarts.”

The idea is the user programs in different combinations of sensory stimuli – sounds, smells, vibration, and colored lights – to shape their dream narrative, nudging it towards new characters and situations and atmospheres. In the words of UK artist Luke Jerram, who invented his own installation-version of the Dream Director, it is a way of “making art in dream space.”

Like Corning’s stereopticon, the Dream Director works its magic using “incorporation.” It is not unlike a set of DJ turntables, only the medium it remixes is the mind – the proto medium, the Medium of Mediums. As the DJ, the user can select from an infinite number of effects – infinite because the user can also produce customized audio using a sound editor that comes with the equipment. One night the user may experiment with the sound of wind and the smell of cinnamon. On another it is green flashing lights, a disco beat and – why not – the sound of grandfather’s voice (the weirder the combination, the stranger the conjured world). On yet another it is the sound of soaring strings and a gentle buzz overtop of the root chakra. Or maybe they just want to listen to a clip from the first part of Stairway to Heaven, which – via the enduring chains of memory association – may provoke a dream re-visitation of an unforgettable slow dance at their High School formal (and their subsequent humiliation with a bottle of Southern Comfort). The combinations of effects and associations are as endless as the mind itself. The canvas: an entire world.

The Dream Director figures out when you’re dreaming by waiting until the second half of the night, when most of our dreams happen. It’s not the most precise method, so Paul also came up with another way, one that works only for men. That’s right: penis technology. Men get erections in REM like clockwork; male users of the Dream Director have the option of using an ingenious “Erection Switch” – that is, a simple cloth band that wraps around the base of the penis and is held in place by a small magnet. When the man gets a REM-induced hard-on, the band unclasps and signals the Dream Director to begin the show. Although women have a similar – if anatomically more subtle – response, harnessing it has so far stumped Paul’s team of all-male engineers. Move over, Marquis.

So: did the Dream Director work for me? In the week I tested Paul’s device I recorded my mother and my three-year old niece Ellia dancing around to Brenda Lee’s “Rockin’ Around the Christmas Tree.” When I replayed the song on the Dream Director that night in my sleep, I dreamt of little Ellia wandering through my living room. On another evening, I recorded a windstorm outside my house, and later woke from a dream charged with the exact feeling of excitement I get whenever a storm hits. So no storm imagery, but plenty of storm-induced emotion. And finally – one might say, inevitably – on one night I dreamt I was being dragged around behind a white delivery van by my penis. No one promised the dreams would all be enjoyable.

The Dream Director is slowly making its way to market. In the meantime, if you are keen to get started there is at least one app and various lucid dreaming induction masks that promise to do something similar. You can also conduct your own experiments with an audio recorder and an MP3 alarm clock – just make sure not to set the volume at a level that will wake you.

A final note of caution: gentlemen … beware the white delivery van.

What to do when everyone is about to lose it

I’ve seen a lot of posts vilifying scrolling through social media, bingeing on food or news. The advice is to exercise instead, to eat well, get a good night’s sleep, etc etc. This prescription completely ignores the seismic life shift we’re all experiencing.  It is denial masking as medical advice.

“I don’t think you need to volunteer right now,” a friend said to me recently. 

 We were on a rainy distance walk and I was talking about my guilt around not doing enough to help. I was thinking aloud about offering my services to an emergency helpline. “You’re always the first person that runs towards helping other people. But you’re having a hard time too.” 

He was right. It had been nearly a week since I’d been outside, two close friends had recently contracted covid-19, one with compromised immunity. I kept trying to think of ways to do more, but I was finding myself frozen, barely able to manage the basics of living. I feel ashamed when I let people know I’m not coping well.  As a psychotherapist, it feels almost unprofessional to admit my own humanness. Yet every day feels like I have less energy and more worry.

There are no guidelines for how to manage the whole world shutting down at the same time.  Studies on war and natural disasters don’t speak to the emotional toll of fighting an invisible enemy, one that lives inside ourselves and everyone we love.  We’ve been asked to abandon closeness in favour of isolation and withdrawal. For many of us, the impacts have yet to arrive. Mostly we’re just waiting. If anxiety were a wave, its peak would be right before the event that we fear actually happens. This waiting is keeping us collectively at that peak, for an uncertain amount of time. Sustained anxiety is taxing, yet we’re expecting ourselves to carry on like everything is normal. It’s not.

Rolling breakdowns

“Rolling breakdowns” is my term for what happens in a large-scale loss of coping energy. When a city’s power grid is overwhelmed, rotating temporary blackouts allow the power supply to be shared until greater capacity is available. The blackouts are part of the strategy. 

Like rolling blackouts, rolling breakdowns is an acknowledgement that breakdowns are going to be part of the strategy for everyone to get through this. It’s a recognition that instead of approaches that try to avoid breakdowns – which we typically use – we acknowledge that we are all going to lose it for a while and we can work together to share resources. 

Imagine your emotional resilience is like a battery. A battery only lasts so long, even at 100% charge. It’s a resource with limits, one that gets drained by life circumstances. COVID-19 has just pulled 30% from everyone’s battery.  Just the crisis alone. Each additional consequence – a job loss, illness, home schooling, loneliness, loss of activities, of friends, of purpose – pulls another 10-25%, depending on the severity. That’s on top of the energy we needed before, just to live our day-to-day lives. The demand is bound to overwhelm the grid, there will be breakdowns.

Breakdown as stuckness

We often associate breakdown with a big emotional response, like overwhelming tears or anger. It can be that, and it can also be getting stuck in a loop, where we can’t stop doing something that’s both helpful and harmful to us. Maybe I can’t stop checking the news, or I can’t stop eating.  Maybe I can’t sleep or stop thinking about work. Maybe I can’t get up, or I can’t call a friend. I’m obsessed with cleaning, or fantasizing about getting sick, just to get this over with. Maybe, I’m trying to pretend this whole thing isn’t even happening.

THE COPING MECHANISM IS NOT THE PROBLEM

I’ve seen a lot of posts vilifying scrolling through social media, bingeing on food or news. The advice is to exercise instead, to eat well, get a good night’s sleep, etc etc. This prescription completely ignores the seismic life shift we’re all experiencing.  It is denial masking as medical advice.

One thing I’ve learned from years of working in the field of addiction is vilifying substances does not curtail use. People drink more under stress, but they also drink more when they’re full of fear, guilt and shame. In order to replace one coping mechanism, we need support to develop another. Until that happens, the best course of action is trying to reduce harm. Distraction feels good.  We need it, especially now, before we’ve figured out the various new ways we’re going to get through this. 

The goal is a balance of shorter and longer-term relief.  I scroll today, because keeping up with the news makes me feel better.  If I do this everyday for hours at a time, the constant exposure to scary, contradictory, and ever-changing news will increase my baseline anxiety. Overtime, it will become harder to cope. I need to read the news, and I also need to not read the news.  I need both. 

HOW TO REDUCE HARM AND HELP YOUR COMMUNITY COPE 

The good news is some of our energy will return on it’s own, as we become accustomed to self-isolation living.  Our brains won’t need to work as hard to process information. We’ll settle. In the meantime, here are some things we can do right now, for ourselves and each other:

1. Let go of normal expectations 

We can lower our expectations of ourselves and others by recognizing that for the next two months, none of us are fully charged. We’re like those old half-drained batteries in the back of the kitchen drawer. We need to lean into whatever coping works. This means we’re going to be less productive, less able, and more reactive. 

2. Think small about change

When we feel out of control, we tend to grasp for things that can make us feel in control. That might mean we’re going to over consume, because consumption – be it food, news, booze or Netflix – is comforting.  We’re also going to deliberately avoid a bunch of things that we just don’t have the energy for right now, and then feel bad about doing so. 

All of this is ok. This period is temporary and soon we will have more energy again. So for now, if you feel like the consumption and avoidance isn’t really hurting you, then go for it.  You’ll stop eventually. If you feel it’s getting to be too much, then look at one small change you can make.  Just one. Maybe it’s not reading the news first thing in the morning. Or buying 2 bags of peanut butter cups instead of 5. When the battery is drained, one small change can be a big victory.

3. Validate what is

“How you’re feeling makes sense, because this is a crazy time.” This is the message you want to practice giving to yourself, and everyone you support. It’s a formula to validate feelings that comes from literature on eating disorders and It goes like this:  “It makes sense you feel X (insert feeling) because Y (insert circumstance)”

In practice, it might look like saying: “It makes sense you feel angry at those people for standing too close, because we are getting that message hammered at us right now, and you are making so many sacrifices right now.” Or “It makes sense you feel like giving up and visiting your parents, because you’re feeling super isolated.”  

Validating a feeling isn’t the same as giving someone permission to do something. People just want to be heard and validated. When we feel heard emotionally, there’s more room in our minds for practical considerations. If supporting others feels hard right now, start this practice with yourself. Try saying something like “It makes sense that I don’t feel like validating anyone’s feelings, because I’m completely freaked out!” 

Whatever version makes sense to you.

4. Share one resource 

 I didn’t want to go on that rainy walk last week, but I had enough energy that day to remind myself that it would probably help. It did.  What also helped was my friend dragging me outside in the first place. I needed this. It’s very easy for me to stay inside for way too long. My friend doesn’t have this issue; it’s easier for him to support me in doing something I need.  

It doesn’t need to be any bigger than that.  Some parts of this are going to be easier for you. You can share those resources – say, your ability to goad people outside, or come up with activities for their kids, or talk about their feelings. You have strengths that other people can use, and vice-versa.

5. Ring Theory: “Comfort in, Dump out” 

It’s not easy to know how to support someone. Finding the right words is a lot of pressure. I encourage you to unburden yourself from this expectation. There are no words that will heal this for anyone. Words can’t achieve that. Being supportive, for the most part, is about listening.  

Real listening requires putting aside our own emotional responses so we can keep our focus on the person we are supporting, otherwise we risk dumping on the person we’re trying to comfort. 

Susan Silk and Barry Goldman wrote a great short piece about this in the LA times. They call it “Ring Theory.”

“Draw a circle,” they write. “This is the centre ring.” In that ring, put the name of the person having a hard time. The next ring out is the name of the person closest to that person. And so on, through wider and wider concentric circles. “Intimate friends in smaller rings, less intimate friends in larger ones.” You now have your “Kvetching Order.” 

And then: “Here are the rules. The person in the centre ring can say anything she wants to anyone, anywhere. She can kvetch and complain and whine and moan and curse the heavens and say, “Life is unfair” and “Why me?” That’s the one payoff for being in the centre ring. Everyone else can say those things too, but only to people in larger rings.”  

I love this model of support. What it looks like in practice is removing your own emotions from your response.  Much more effective to say “that’s hard” or even, “I don’t know what to say” than “I wouldn’t be able to handle that if it happened to me,” or “I don’t know how you are managing, I’d lose it.” Those things are perfectly ok to think and say, just make sure it’s to a person in a larger ring. 

In other words, “comfort in,” “dump out.”

THE WAY WE MANAGE THIS CRISIS WILL CHANGE

Aisha S. Ahmad, a war survivor, has an inspiring article in The Chronicle of Higher Education on reducing the pressure to be “productive.” A crisis, she explains, has stages. In the beginning, we’re not able to work and cope at the same capacity as before. We don’t even know the new rules yet. In her view, this is completely normal. Accept the dysfunction. The way we manage the crisis will change as we learn more and better skills to live in this new way. Our capacity will grow, our creativity will expand. We are nothing if not adaptive.

About the Author

Lisa Zimmerman is a Psychotherapist, supervisor, teacher and meditation and donut enthusiast in private practice in Ottawa.  She also works with an Indigenous organization delivering anti-bias trainings all over the country and specialists in trauma and addiction treatment. She is Jeff’s friend and has no website of her own, hence her presence here!

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